Josijo: I am sorry that you are going through all this worry and hope that it is as simple as your dates being a bit out of whack. I have everything crossed for you
Usually I don't post in these sort of threads because I don't know much about the levels etc, but I did see that you mentioned you were seeing Dr. Keeping. I delivered my son Harrison with Dr. Keeping and as you can see from my sig I lost my precious son. Please, please know that I lost Harrison due to medical issues that he had and it was absolutely nothing to do with the care I received from Dr. Keeping.
However, I had a very complicated pregnancy with various episodes of bleeding and tests, stress, worry etc and I have to be honest, neither my DH or I were impressed with Dr. Keeping, he seemed to have a opinion that I was an over anxious first time mum and that I should just stop worrying and relax. I too had the call back on Monday attitude when I ended up in emergency with bleeding. I also was very disappointed with how he behaved at Harry's birth. He was literally there for the last 5 mins and didn't come to the hospital to check on me or DH once. I know that Harry wasn't a normal birth but I felt very abandoned. It was my first labour and regardless of the outcome, I think DH and I deserved more than that.
The only reason I say this is that now I am pregnant again and I am seeing Dr. Pesce at the Westmead (I have moved to Sydney) and he has been amazing. He has given me so much support and I have never been made to feel like I am over-reacting. He even met me at the hospital at 9.30pm on a Sunday evening because I had some pink CM and gave me a scan and didn't charge a cent. Dr. Pesce's care has shown me how supportive an ob can be. I hope that Dr. Keeping picks up his act a bit for you, but if he doesn't don't feel embarrased to go elsewhere.
On a positive note, the Midwifes at the Mater Private were the most amazing, caring and beautiful people I have ever met and after the wonderful care they gave me and my DH I now consider them as part of our family, so if you are delivering there you can rest assured that you will be taken care of.
Spring Angel, I'm so sorry to hear about you son Harrison. Thanks so much for sharing your experience with Dr Keeping with me.
I was starting te feel like I was the only one who didn't think Dr Keeping was absolutely fantastic. As I said before, I haven't met him so Isuppose I can't judge him personally but was blocked at every turn by his staff. The 'call back later' attitude just left me feeling really alone and I ended up with no firm opinion as to whether I needed a D&C. So far, it seems like I don't but at a time like this I have so many questions going through my head like ' what if I do need an D&C and end up with an infection?',
Just to clarify my FS (who I'm not going to bother with anymore!) was another doctor who is currently on a break from delivering babies at the moment so it was only a wait of a couple of weeks to get in to see him.
I suppose what I need now is an ob who also deals with fertility. I don't think Dr Keeping will be the doctor for me if I get pregnant again, how his satff treated me just felt wrong. So I suppose I need to keep looking around and perhaps be patient if it takes a couple of months to get in to see my chosen FS/obs.
Sorry, I got a bit confused about your story, I am so very sorry for your loss.
When I was looking for a ob I too felt like every was raving about Dr. Keeping but perhaps he is fantastic when everything goes to plan and it is a different story when complications arise. The reason I wanted to share my experience with you is that I didn't want you to feel like you were the only one.
My experience with him as I said wasn't good enough in my eyes and I wouldn't go back to him again if I still lived in Brissy.
Even just thinking about it over the last hour or so, he left me waiting in his waiting room for 1.5hours when I went for my post-birth checkup with pregnant ladies and new born babies everywhere. I completly understand that he got called out at the last moment, but his staff did nothing to comfort DH and I. I basically sobbed the whole time. It wasn't until DH said it wasn't good enough and that we were leaving and to stuff the check up that they offerred us a private room to wait in. At the time for me it was a complete blur, but when I look back now I realise how horrible it was to put grieving parents in that situation.
Shop around honey, you will find the perfect Ob for you and deliver a healthy earth baby.
Hi Spring Angel, sorry I confused you. I've just been madly bashing away at my keyboard getting my whole story out (and eating leftover chocolate easter bunnies) without stopping to think about whether I was making much sense. It's bl**dy complicated - what with a gp, an fs and an obs! Throw in the progeterone issue and it's even more complex!
Your post birth checkup sounds none too pleasant. I wish that his staff could have been more thoughtful at such a tough time. Sometimes little things mean so much.
I'm so pleased that you have found a great ob for your pregnancy. Again, thanks so much for sharing your story with me. If DH and I are lucky enough to get pregnant again I think that I'm going to be extra anxious since I've had an m/c and will need an obs who is cool with that.
I am sorry to hear of your loss. A m/c is a difficult thing to go through, particularly when you've been trying a while. My first one was after 3 years of trying & my second after 9 months of trying with a new partner so I understand what it's like.
Before you beat yourself up about this please remember that the stats show that 1 in 3 pregnancies end in miscarriage... usually before 12 weeks (most well before that) and that most doctors will tell you that there is nothing that can be done to avoid it. If you have a history of miscarriage (usually 3 or more) then they will start looking into causes, but before that they will pretty much just say it's inevitable. What I'm trying to say is the result would most likely to have been the same regardless of which doctor you saw, they pretty much all would take the wait & see stance that is so popular with the docs & early bleeding.
Make sure you get the test done next time 7 days after ovulation which will show more clearly if your progesterone level is low or not and that way you will be able to discuss what measures need to be taken to support any future pg.
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