have any of you had older children who have been through stillbirth or m/c with you? my son doesnt seem to have any feeling about it he knows now that there isnt a baby in mummys belly and when i came home he told me he would get small and gt in my belly so i would have baby in there again and be happy, we let him attend the funeral but he didnt sem to grasp what was going on. has he grasped it and just getting on or does he not understand at all?