I was hoping to never post in this forum, but unfortunately things don't always go the way we want them to. I just heard today that one of my close friends gave birth to a stillborn baby three days ago. I saw her often during the early stages of her pregnancy and there was even talk of me being her birthing partner when the baby came (fortunately for her, she worked things out with her DP, so I never went to any classes with her or anything, but I was still very happy and excited for her).

Recently we kind of lost contact because I went back to fulltime work and because for reasons unknown to me, her DS went into foster care, so he and my DD didn't play together anymore. Furthermore, my sister gave birth a month ago. My friend knew that my sister was pregnant and although she had only met her once was quite excited at the prospect of someone close (even by proxy through me) having a child of a similiar age to hers. I haven't seen my friend for a while now. She doens't even know about my sister's baby. So what should I do? When I see her, she will no doubt ask about my sister. Should I talk about it? Should I bring DD with me (my friend loves her), or will that only reminder her of her absent DS, as well as her lost baby? What can I do to support her and not upset her any more than she must already be feeling?