One of my closest friends gave birth to a beautiful sleeping baby boy on mothers day 9 years ago this year.

We talk about him still and I see the pain in her face from time to time. Many of our friends dont want to hear about him and I know they wouldnt join in on this so it would be just us.

I really wanted to do something nice this year. I was thinking of taking her out to his final resting place, with a small brithday cake and some balloon's so we could wish him a happy birthday. We'd sing to him, have a cuppa and cake and then release the balloon's together. I havent mentioned anything to her...J man and I thought we could all go out together, kids and all (she has 2 other children) and it would be like a birthday party for him and then he said maybe justher and I should go out alone so she could have a good cry and let go some of the sadness without worrying about the other kids seeing.

I dont want her to be upset but I want to show her that he is still alive in our hearts and wont be forgotten either. Do you think im overstepping at all? I really dont want to hurt her.

Your thoughts good or bad will be taken on baord

thanks so much