I'll jump straight to the details because I am not really in the mood right now for anything else, but I know you will all understand. I am/was 11 weeks along but not with a blighted ovum and a 2.5cm fetal sac. I have been booked in for a suction curette on Monday - apparently because on Friday my uterus was high and closed I wasn't considered a food candidate for the "let it pass by itself" or insertion of tablets way of dealing with things. But now I am starting to question whether a curette is the best option for me - the risks of perforation, infection, Asmerman's syndrome and so on are not appealing. I thought by having the procedure I could get back on the TTC wagon sooner but either way it looks like we will have to wait til Feb anyway. I know everyone's medical history is different but I figure an obstetrics industry that is hyper-interventionalist in birth is probably the same at the other end of the scale so would welcome some views on the subject, especially any medical/midwifery ones.
hi and sorry for the bad news you have received. hope you are doing ok
just thought i would give you my story. i discovered my baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks when i went for my 12 week scan, so did not want to wait for nature to take it's course as i don't think anything was going to happen by itself. so i did have the tablets on 23rd sept and again on the 25th, and they didn't work for me. i had retained products and could not stop bleeding.
so on 19th oct i had to have d&c anyway, and i had trouble with controlling the bleeding after this as well, which in the end i had to take medication for. i have just finished my first af since the procedure and all in all i would say that the d&c was better in my case than tablets, and should have gone for this option straight off in hindsight. it was the easier option than having to pass all the products and recovery didn't take long. i just had 2 days off work after d&c, whereas i had a week with the tablets, and more if you count the numerous ultrasounds i had to keep having.
D&Cs and very common, i was supposed to get mine done on the friday but they couldn't fit me in as they already had 7 booked in, so that eased my mind that they do this all the time, and the risks of complications are quite small.
it's not an easy decision to make, i wish you good luck and strength through this difficult time.
I didnt have a curette when I lost the twins.....I was allowed to 'abort naturally' thats term still grates me.
I sometimes wish I would have had a curette as I bleed for 4 weeks and then promptly fell pg 2 weeks after. I have been told that after having a curette that the bleeding may be heavier and the cramps are harder but they are gone (apparently) within 2 weeks...and not dragged out like mine were for the 4.
I had D&C's with both my losses.. Each was at 10 weeks.. I only had mild cramping with the first one.. almost no bleeding. after my 2nd loss and d&C they left some "products" behind and I ended up MC aat home as well. It hurt and I hope to never ever have to go through that again.
What you have just said in the post above is exactly how I felt as well. Of course I was sad but I always tried to look on the positive side of it as well..
I had a D&C after my missed miscarriage in 2006. When we discovered via ultrasound that our baby was no longer, and there was nothing we could do about it, I wanted the 'pregnancy' over that minute, yesterday. My heart needed a D&C, ASAP. Fortunately, my Ob recognised that need, and put me first on his list for that afternoon (and he was amazing that whole day, I will never forget his compassion). It was not easy, I won't lie. But I could go on with grieving immediately, and move on to hoping for another baby soon. It was all I could think about, falling pg again was the only thing that could help me at the time.
I'm not saying at all that you 'should' have a D&C, but that you will know what you need to do for yourself in this situation.........your heart will tell you. Inanna is right, the risks are there, but are tiny. Perhaps don't let them stress you out, but see if you can find inside you what it is that you need to do right now, and discuss it with your care providers
Roryrory
sorry to jump in, but just wanted to give you a as I too am having a d&c on Monday morning. Supposed to be 10weeks after IVF.... but not meant to be our time this year (this is our 3rd m/c but 1st d&c)
take care my dear, and I hope someone's watching over us both x
need some advice - procedure after loss
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