Not again

[Loubee]

I never thought that I would be joining this thread. After having a blighted ovum last year and having to have a D&C on my birthday, I felt for sure that this pregnancy would go well.

This morning I went for my dating scan. According to my LMP (4 Aug) I am 7W3D. According to the scan I am 6W1D. I had to have the scan done internally as the woman couldn't see anything in the sac abdominaly. We could just make out a grey blob on the internal but she couldn't pick up a heartbeat.

DH and I are devastated that we are going to lose another one. We went to the GP and he said that I haven't lost it yet and that there is still hope, but he also talked about missed m/c. There is no way that my dates are wrong...we only DTD one time the whole month, and my cycles are never shorter than 32 days. Had a HCG test done today and will have another done on Sun but wont get the results till Tues as we have a bank holiday here.

Mentally, I am going from one extreme to the other - this was to be DH 1st bubs (my 4th, my youngest is 10) and I feel sooo guilty that I can't produce for him. He says he loves the kids we have as if they were his own flesh & blood and won't feel like he's missed out if we don't have a child of our own. I just hate that I've let him down.

Thanks for letting me rant

L xx

[Shar]

I hope that things turn out ok and the HCG shows something good for you.

6w 1 d is early to see a heartbeat, maybe you just need to have another scan in a week or so?

Anyway, i'm no expert, just hope you get a different outcome to the one you are thinking.

[chepie]

oh babe I am sorry ...... but and I mean BUT..... try and stay positive (easy for me to say I know) and see how your levels are rising with BT.....I can only imagine that Tuesday is an eternity away - be kind to yourself and keep that hope that all is ok.... and it is probably too early to see a heartbeat - I didn't see one with Aiden until at least
8-7 weeks and was scared as we had previously had an ectopic pregnancy... and you are not letting your man down you are an amazing woman xxxx take care and I will be thinking of you on Tuesday xx

[NaeNae]

sweets, I know how difficult this can be. I am hoping things are just a bit too early for you. As suggested see if you can get another scan done in a few weeks just to be sure.
As for the dates the way they measure the sac etc can be out with conception as it does take a while for the egg and sperm to do their meet and greet and for implantation as well. My dates were out a week as well.

Don't give up hope yet, its a hard rollercoaster to ride but just try to remember its not over until its over and at the moment you don't know 100% either way.

Massive hugs its such a trying time for you so be gentle with yourself.

Luv nae x

[Elocin]

Oh Loubee, I'm sorry that you are going through this.

for you x

[Loubee]

Didin't end up getting the blood test as the hospital lab was shut....Iwas told to go to ED but there were so many people there it was standing room only, so we not to wait. I will go back to the doc on Tues and have another test done there (if all is well then the results should have quadrupled)

Thanks for all your kind comments....L xx

[luna moth]

Fingers crossed for your bloods.

And d & c on your birthday.... that sucks. How awful. As if it's not bad enough to get a year older.

[chepie]

Hi Hun... just checking to see how your day is going and if you are ok? xx

[Loubee]

Hi, I finally had my 2nd scan and it showed that the embryo stopped growing at 6w2d. I should be 8 weeks today. There was also no heartbeat. We have decided not to try again so in a few months when this has all settled down, I will be going for a hysterectomy so this can never happen again.

Thanks for all you kind words and good luck for wherever your journies take you

L xx

[Shar]

Devestating.

I can't find the words for you that you probably haven't already heard, I am thinking of you and your partner.

Shar xx

[~Kim~]

oh sweetheart

[Winter]

I'm so sorry Loubee I've had a missed m/c and they are devastating. I really feel for you hun.

[mummy2chloe]

I am so sorry sweetheart, thinking of you xxx

[Yarrawin]

Oh, Loubee, honey :hugs:

I'm so sorry we've both ended up in here. I've definitely lost mine too. I had another scan today and there was nothing there, though I knew I had miscarried over the weekend anyway. I've just posted a thread about it in loss stories (I think - I haven't slept in five nights now so I'm a bit of a zombie).

I know theres nothing I can say to make anything better, just as no-one can say anything to me right now, but I'm here if you ever want to talk. xx

[chepie]

Hi sweetie I am really every so sorry I really am ......Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to greive xxxx

[Loubee]

Yarrawin, I wondered what had happened to you....I hope you're holding up ok. I had a D&C yesterday evening, as I mentioned before, DH workis in the hospital so I had the best treatment - everyone was so kind. The surgeon signed DH off for a couple of days to care for me and to be honest, now it's all over I feel so much better.