As I just posted, my cervix has been high and closed... its now lowish, shorter, mushy, and i am bleeding a lot..... I am booked in for 7.30, to go in at 9.30 am, and they are making me stay overnight after the d & c which I really dont wanna do...
I have read a loss story on here, who birthed her 13 wk stillborn at home, and then went to hossy, and it sounds like something i would prefer to do.....I want to stay here, with my family, and not leave H who is still b'fed....
Is it ok to just stay here?? I might go all night yet, and still go up at 7.30 anyway, but if things progress quickly, could I stay home in my shower, get to hold my little one, and go to hossy later???
Oh darl, wish I could be there for you. When I m/c at 13wks I was in hospital and I don't want to scare you but I haemoraged, would just hate for something like that to happen to you. I can totally understand you wanting to be at home. I honestly don't know what to say just sending you big .
I think if you feel better staying at home then do it, but just be watchful of how you're feeling physically and go to hospy if you're not feeling like you think you should. If you do stay home, be very careful of haemmorraging. I also hammoerged with my first angel (@ 19wks) whilst at home. Big hugs hun.
It's very much your choice darling. I have laboured but with a bigger baby and was induced and it took more than 12 hours for one of those...
If it were me, I would just work with things at home. Because your little one passed some time ago - oh darling I don't want to sound gory but things won't be intact. Your body will know what to do - it's important that you try and keep what you pass, that if you bleed what seems to you an excessive amount that you contact your hospital.
You are free to pm me or keep posting & I will be sure to watch this thread for you.
Wishing you an easy labour as you birth your baby.
Bleeding is normal during m/c, no doubt there will be a bit more too. I think I lost about 500mls when I birthed Banjo (which slowed after the birth). Make sure you have someone with you to help you, you will need things and you won't be able to get them yourself. Is your partner comfortable with your birthing now? Or would he be more comfortable with another pair of hand to help?
Stay home where you are comfortable unless you need to go to hospital.
xx
Last edited by Inanna; January 10th, 2010 at 06:44 PM.
Ad and I are both happy to be here alone..... we have the two big boys, watching tele in the back lounge, and H in bed. DD and the 2 little boys are at a sleepover and ma and pas house......I would much prefer it just us....
Ad would like me to call an ambo as soon as bub passes, and app I should birth/pass clots over a bucket etc to monitor things? Ad would like the ambo on the way, so they can take me to hossy, and look after me should there be excess bleeding...... so the 'safer" way for him to handle things.... poor Ad....... he is so so soft, and its killing him....
the bleeding has slowed, but my cervix is very very short now..... (using gloved fingers)
Hugs hun it sounds like you know how you want it to happen and Ad ideas sound very much warrented and fair.
Thinking of you, if at anytime you feel bleeding is too heavy call an ambulance then, but while you are as comfortable as you are going to be with situation do what feels right for you as a family.
Sweety you need to do what is right for you. However, there really is no need to call the ambulance unless there is a big bleed which is highly unlikely darling.
It sounds to me that things are on the move & it will just take time. It's just now waiting and pacing yourself. I would run a nice hot bath, light some cancles and do some reflecting. If there are no cx I would hop into bed and rest. Strength be with you darling....
Oh honey... I'm so sorry. It's so unfair.
No advice on what you should do, other than do what feels right, and have a back-up plan. Stay safe. My thoughts are with you.
*hugs*
Hun - birth at home You will feel more comfortable but as Inanna said, be prepared that your baby may not be intact or recognisable if it did indeed die some time ago I am so sorry there is the need to be graphic at this time. I would hate for you to birth at home and not be informed
BUT - you need to monitor your blood loss. If you are soaking more than a couple of pads in an hour I would suggest getting to hospital. The main concern is you, and there is an increased risk of haemorrhage in later loss. You may have pain - take whatever you need to manage it.
I am online for a while if you have any questions or need to chat
PB I'm sorry I am in a dash just at the minute. I just wanted to say - a good way to monitor your loss is to pop on a pad. If you are soaking 2 pads in about an hour it's wise to seek medical assessment.
It's not uncommon with this type of loss for tissue to cover the os - and this can cause extra bleeding. Just keep an eye on it and go to the hospital if needed. I am sorry to be talking so frankly - however, I don't want you at home wondering what's going on. So, it's not unusual for what looks like a large amount of tissue to be passed - it's more the fluid blood that we are monitoring. I am so sorry to be so graphic darling - I know this is hard to read.
whoops *Snap* Michelle...
Last edited by Inanna; January 10th, 2010 at 07:12 PM.
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Now I need your help, bleeding.....
he is so so soft, and its killing him....
I am so sorry there is the need to be graphic at this time. I would hate for you to birth at home and not be informed
for strength for you and Adam.
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