so I didn't feel the need to avoid pregnant friends/family, but there was a good year or two before I met DH, when I was having a really hard time watching my friends all settle down and start families and wondering if it wsa ever going to happen for me, kwim? Kind of like what I imagine a couple going through IVF would feel - everyone around them is blissfully happy, getting what they want, and here's me all alone and miserable and jealous and just wanting a bub so badly, kwim?
So I didn't avoid friends and family after my loss, but there was quite a long period before that when I couldn't stand to be around pregnant friends and family for those reasons. It wasn't so hard for me to, say, be out shopping and see pregnant women walk past, yes it hurt a little, but nowhere near as much as hearing my friends gush on about how excited they were/complain about having to pee constantly etc...
It was only when DH and I started trying for a family and were successful, that I felt ready to be aroun
I recently lost my baby girl.
And now one of my ex-friends is pregnant.
After being so evil about me being pregnant she's pregnant herself.
And i feel she's throwing it back in my face as well.
I try to avoid her as much as possible cause it does hurt so much.
She's the girlfriend of my baby girl's dad's best friend (if that makes sense)
So its really hard even more.
I feel she rubs it in my face every chance she gets.
But from my point of view its not wrong to avoid pregnant women.
Its just your/my way of dealing with our loss.
I mean, i dont really have that many people behind me supporting me as much as possible cause no one really approved of me being pregnant.
Technically, i'm just another case of teen pregnancy..
Is it ok to avoid pregnant people after loss
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