Our baby has died

[Rosa]

Sally, i'm so sorry for your loss same thing happened to me back in Dec, just be strong i know its hard but i found it so hard and didnt want to anything, the d & c for me was tough but just be strong within yourself and you will be fine. It will be over before you know it. I am here for you if you need, and don't forget that there is always time to try again. Love ya lots

[Heybacko]

Sat here in tears, reading all the earlier replies. So very sorry to hear that so many people are going through the same heartbreaking agony as me, but taking lots of comfort (well, not comfort exactly but you know what I mean) from knowing I am not alone.
Lost our little one last August, had a scan at 11 weeks and all was well, then started with back pain and cramps one morning at 16 weeks, waters broke and the inevitable happened. Heartbreaking day, hated having to say goodbye, I have no idea at all how we got through it. They think the baby died at around 12 weeks.
Pregnant again by Christmas, went for Nuchal Fold scan on Tuesday at 13w 2d and my biggest worry was whether or not it could be twins as they are on both sides
Nothing but nothing could have prepared me for being told they couldn't find a heartbeat and that my much much wanted little one had been lost a week or so before. Why, why, why??
How many stupid thoughts went through my head: baby's asleep, machine was malfunctioning, they've just got it wrong.
But I know they haven't because now my symptoms are going away and, by Monday, so will my hopes and dreams- again.
I know a D&C is no big deal (been there before), I know it's the best way to avoid infection and has the biggest chance of quickest recovery afterwards, so why do I still not want to go the hospital? Why can't they have got it wrong??
Big, big hugs to all those going (or have gone) through the same thing - keep your chins up and (if it is right for you) try again, I know we will - you have to believe that it will be okay (although right now I know I will be scared as hell)
Thanks so much for listening, so glad I found this site