Just wondered if you lovely ladies could give me some advice on something for a friend who lost a baby girl Lily many years ago.

Baby had serious abnormalities and was born still at about 25/26 weeks. They named her Lily. I was very close to my friends at the time and this was absolutely devestating to them and their family and friends. It was their first bubba. My friend moved and lost contact with me not long after. It wasn't a great time for me either, they literally found out about Lily's abnormalities as I was in court sorting out huge family issues of my own.

Fast forward to today - 14 years later . My friend and her husband, after initially deciding on no more kids, now have twin four year old boys. We finally got back in touch (thanks Facebook - I literally searched for her from the day I joined and she was there after a year!) and visited them interstate last year. My friend remembered that I took some photos of her while she was pregnant with Lily and no one else did. She asked me if I could send her some copies.

I found the photos (yay!) and I want to send them to her. I want to include a letter telling her how much of an impact Lily's short time with us made on me. I also wanted to send a small gift of remembrance to go with the photos. What would you recommend? Something that acknowledges Lily's life. It'll have to be posted interstate. I'm also a bit embarrassed because I don't remember the date Lily was born still. My friend's father rang me and told me at the time and I sent her a letter, but I didn't keep a copy. Do you think she'd mind if I sent her a message asking her to remind me of Lily's birthdate?

Thanks for any help.