Remembrance ideas for a friend's baby born still

[Jennifer13]

Just wondered if you lovely ladies could give me some advice on something for a friend who lost a baby girl Lily many years ago.

Baby had serious abnormalities and was born still at about 25/26 weeks. They named her Lily. I was very close to my friends at the time and this was absolutely devestating to them and their family and friends. It was their first bubba. My friend moved and lost contact with me not long after. It wasn't a great time for me either, they literally found out about Lily's abnormalities as I was in court sorting out huge family issues of my own.

Fast forward to today - 14 years later . My friend and her husband, after initially deciding on no more kids, now have twin four year old boys. We finally got back in touch (thanks Facebook - I literally searched for her from the day I joined and she was there after a year!) and visited them interstate last year. My friend remembered that I took some photos of her while she was pregnant with Lily and no one else did. She asked me if I could send her some copies.

I found the photos (yay!) and I want to send them to her. I want to include a letter telling her how much of an impact Lily's short time with us made on me. I also wanted to send a small gift of remembrance to go with the photos. What would you recommend? Something that acknowledges Lily's life. It'll have to be posted interstate. I'm also a bit embarrassed because I don't remember the date Lily was born still. My friend's father rang me and told me at the time and I sent her a letter, but I didn't keep a copy. Do you think she'd mind if I sent her a message asking her to remind me of Lily's birthdate?

Thanks for any help.

[Rach75]

you could send her a package of lily seeds... I would send a angel firgurine...one if the gift of life ones I think thats what they are called, but being sent interstate postage and breakage factor are a possibility

as for asking Lily's birthdate perhaps dont ask her outright, but maybe something like was thinking of you on mothers day...and I feel horrible that I can't remember Lily's birthday...

[TeniBear]

You could get one of those little guardian angel pins... Do you know the month Lily was born? Or even remember what year it was? Maybe just a little note saying "In memory of Lily [surname], February 1995 (or whatever year/month)" - if you remember the month, you could get one with her birthstone...

If you want to ask, go ahead, but personally I'd like it if a friend surprised me with a little present out of the blue, and asking may put it in her mind that you're doing that

[Jennifer13]

Thanks girls re not asking her. You're right that a surprise would probably be nicer. And I just realised - I have the date of the photo and the no of weeks she was pg on each photo! So I can work out the right month at least. It would have been December 1997.

[HotI]

http://namesinthesand.blogspot.com/

http://namesbycandlelight.blogspot.com/

these guys do some lovely memorials

[feeb]

You could get a willow figurine. Or a really nice frame with a pic in it.

What a lovely idea

[maz]

You could get a willow figurine. Or a really nice frame with a pic in it.

I was going to say the same thing. I think Willow even have frames aswell.

I'll PM you a link to the person I buy mine from. Ive sent a few out to friends and to those close who have lost a baby aswell.

gorgeous woman!!!!