thread: So angry at myself!

  1. #1
    Registered User

    Aug 2009
    Ipswich, Queensland
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    So angry at myself!

    Why after two other miscarriages did i get so attached again! i was anxious about miscarrying again...and yet in the six days i knew i got attached and my heartbroken all over again.
    It's so devastating and i'm so cranky at myself for doing it. How can you want something and love something you don't even know, you just love the idea of? I feel so stupid.

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  3. #3

    Nov 2007
    Earth
    4,434

    You're not stupid darl, it's a biological norm. Although I agree it's completely stupid - we should know that there's something wrong and not get attached. But that's not fair on the bub either. Believe me, I've been on this ride 5 times, and I don't recall paying for a ticket. Big hugs to you

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Oct 2006
    In a house, on a hill with a big fat welcome mat!
    6,772

    Hugs not silly we have been there to. It's the hopes and plans you make that break your heart the most I think x

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Feb 2010
    on a big patch of paradise.
    3,720

    big hugs, your not stupid in any way. the situation is stupid and it really sucks. I am very sorry.

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Jan 2011
    Perth
    3,268

    Oh sweetheart don't ever, ever feel stupid for loving. You created a life, for a brief time carried that life inside you. Therefore you are more than entitled to love that life, and to grieve it.

    Big hug. X

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Sep 2005
    In the middle of nowhere
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    cos you can't not get attached
    I'm so sorry chick.

  8. #8
    BellyBelly Member

    Sep 2010
    North West Victoria, Australia
    3,003

    I'm so sorry. I only knew I was pregnant a few days before I miscarried and I was so attached.. That was your child. Grieve for the loss, you are in my thoughts. xx

  9. #9
    Registered User

    Nov 2011
    SE Melbourne
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    Yeah it's sucks xox


  10. #10
    Registered User

    Aug 2009
    Ipswich, Queensland
    1,418

    thanks everyone. doing a little bit better this weekend ...still sad but not quite as angry. it is so frustrating and heartbreaking.

  11. #11
    Registered User
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    Oct 2007
    Eastern Wheatbelt WA
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    I'm so sorry for your loss x

  12. #12

    Mar 2008
    Where dreams are now reality
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    You shouldn't feel stupid, hun. How can you not love what you have created and dreamed of? I am so very sorry for your loss

  13. #13
    Registered User

    Mar 2008
    North Northcote
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    I'm really sorry Kirley

  14. #14

    May 2008
    Melbourne, Vic
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    Oh Hun... I so sorry you find yourself in this position again. Don't be angry at yourself... Be sad... Grieve... But don't be angry at yourself. You did nothing except allow yourself to hope. I feel for you