In regards to telling the other kids, you weren't silly at all. Funnily enough my DD told me last time before I could tell her, but I'm not sure there's any great way to say that our baby just couldn't stay with us.
My last one was around the same time and I bled for roughly 7 days.
I have tried straight after all of mine. Had success but only one birth. I remember one doc saying to me it's more about your heart, as your body will only conceive when it's ready and able.
firstly im so sorry i had my m/c at 7 weeks, and had it natural as well, i didn't need a d&c. im not too sure how long i bled for....maybe 1 week or 2 weeks? im pretty sure i got my AF back around 4-5weeks.....my doctor also said at the time that we could start trying straight away if we wanted, we didnt need to wait a few cycles or anything....
in regards to telling your kids, how old are they? i know when I lost J, we told my kids that he was sick, and he went to sleep and didn't wake up. That was the easiest way for them to understand....maybe you could say something similar? that the baby was sick and couldn't stay..... whatever is easiest for them to understand.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I have had all natural m/c and swith my last I think I bled roughly for approx. 1 week. I was just over 5w pg.
As for telling your children, I would be honest and tell them that bubs couldn't stay on this earth.
Depending on if you have religious beliefs or not you might want to express that bubs left earth to be in heaven with God or take a different approach like baby is with angels etc....
Of all the times I m/c, we tried as soon as I was mentally ready b/c physically it was like a heavy period with my m/c. I think I have had the most success ttc after waiting one cycle.
Sweetie I am so sorry this had happened to you. I was hoping when I read your post on Sunday that it wouldn't be a mc, i was actually miscarrying myself whilst replying to you, I ended up in ED with morphine in my drip as the pain was making me pass out.
My last natural mc was a bit of cramping and bleeding for 2 days, this time again natural after ob was able to move the sac from my cervix where it was stuck (hence the pain) I have very heavy bleeding still. I really think everytime and everyone is different, the ob did tell me that if pain comes back or bleeding starts soaking pads every few hours to call or go back to ED. Can I suggest that this would be the same for you?
As for your little ones, i think the idea of telling them the baby is an angel and in heaven etc would be easier for them to understand
Please feel free to pm me if you want or need to chat more as we are going through the same thing at the same time xxx
I'm so sorry to hear your news I don't think it was silly of you to tell your children early on. What you tell them now will probably depend on your beliefs. When my baby passed away we hadn't told anyone yet because we only found out when we came home from our honeymoon, so hadn't really had a chance to tell people yet. In my heart I like to believe that the little soul that would have been my first baby, is now my little boy. The first little baby body I created wasn't perfect, so the little soul waited until I had created a perfect little body for it to inhabit.
Han, I'm so sorry.
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whatever is easiest for them to understand.
I don't think it was silly of you to tell your children early on. What you tell them now will probably depend on your beliefs. When my baby passed away we hadn't told anyone yet because we only found out when we came home from our honeymoon, so hadn't really had a chance to tell people yet. In my heart I like to believe that the little soul that would have been my first baby, is now my little boy. The first little baby body I created wasn't perfect, so the little soul waited until I had created a perfect little body for it to inhabit.
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