I am having a miscarriage. I am supposed to be just over 8weeks, but baby stopped growing a few weeks ago. I have been brown spotting since last Friday, no cramps, no fresh blood, just feeling really crappy in my body and very tired. I am really wanting to miscarry naturally, and I guess I thought something more would have happened by now. So my question is to anyone who waited it out. How long did it take for the cramping and bleeding after your brown spotting (if you had any)
The waiting has served a great purpose in allowing me to really go to the emotional part of the healing, and now with more strength I feel ready for the next stage. Any thoughts would be appreciated....
I had the spotting for a week and a half before it started and then very heavy and cramping for a night, then like a normal AF for about a week. I was 9 weeks.
With my natural ones the bleeding started within a couple of days, but the pain wasn't there the whole time. At the start I would get what I assume are contractions - extremely painful bursts of period type pain - then once I had passed a few clots, I just kept bleeding for a few days, very heavily.
When I had a d&c, it wasn't like that, there was virtually no pain, but a lot of blood. After 6 weeks of that I ended up having a d&c.
For one of mine, i had brown spotting and cramps on and off for a week and bit, then I had some bleeding that lasted almost 8 weeks. it was a bit hard going, and probably should of been a D&C but OB wasn't for it (I miscarried at 10 weeks...baby stopped at 8 weeks)
another one I had (later in the first tri), started off as spotting the day before then the following lunchtime was hard and fast for a couple of hours where towards the end I passed the baby. after that it practically stopped. some light period-like bleeding for about 5ish days.
I would go for as long as you are comfortable. I am sorry that you are going through this
I miscarried at 12 weeks but baby had stopped growing at 6 - 7 weeks. I had very mild cramping on a Thursday night, all day Friday. I started spotting brown blood on the friday afternoon and started bleeding red blood by lunchtime the following day. That day i passed a lot of blood and clots. The following day (Sunday) I had severe contraction like cramps all day. On Monday a passed a very large clot. The cramping and bleeding slowed down to normal period pain after that and I bled for about 10 days afterwards getting gradually lighter until the last couple of days was just spotting. I hope this helps.
I'm so sorry you have to experience this and completely understand where you're coming from about feeling stronger somewhat now. I felt that, for me, naturally miscarrying and being really present throughout the process, while incredibly painful emotionally, also helped me to heal.
I naturally miscarried. I didn't even realise I was pregnant though, I was in a huge amount of pain with a little bit of spotting for about 7 days. I was only about 5 weeks so I thought at the time it was some kind of screwed up period before I eventually went to the doctor. They then found out my hcg levels were consistent with a pregnancy. My bleeding started about 8 or 9 days after the cramping and spotting happened.
Thankyou so much for the detailed and supportive replies. I deeply appreciate you all taking the time. I have got a Dr's appointment on Monday morning so I am hoping something will happen this weekend. Now that hubby is home for the weekend I am thinking I can really relax and drop into what it being asked of me. I will certainly make sure that I don't have any infection symptoms, I think I feel off in my body due to the waiting and wondering, plus still feeling nausea which is difficult as it is no longer useful.
It feels wonderful to be able to come here and ask, I am still staying very much close to home so haven't really asked many people in real life how it was for them.
So again, heartfelt thanks to all for being so open to share such a personal experience with me, I feel so much more supported to walk the next steps xxx
Just updating.... I started bleeding this afternoon and had 'labour' pains and intense bleeding. Feeling a mix of emotions, plus it's a month ago today that we got married, so it's weird that today of all days it happened!
I have an appointment on Wednesday at the early pregnancy clinic for checkup and bloods and injections, so I guess they will make sure everything is moving nicely. I am glad I waited it out and I am so relieved I didn't have to wait too long for this moment after the nurse telling me today she knows of a woman that went 10weeks waiting for the baby to pass....!
Thank-you again for all of the support. x
As horrid as it is, I am glad things are moving along for you, the waiting and wondering is a killer. Good luck at your appointment these things are never easy
HI Rach,
I only just found this reply. I am sorry that I didn't answer you sooner. I passed the baby naturally about 2 weeks after finding out, it was quite intense, and the bleeding after was alot. I am pregnant again now, and have had a few anxious moments the last few months. I am just over 12 weeks and symptoms have been very different this time around. Thanks for checking in with me, I hope this finds you well xx
Hi ladybf - congrats! It's so encouraging to hear that your are pregnant again.
I have just finished miscarrying naturally, and I'm really encouraged to hear that you have fallen pregnant again relatively quickly.
I started to miscarry at the 7 week mark, and that being my first pregnancy had no idea that the pregnancy had failed to progress past the 5 week mark. I was relatively fortunate in that the bleeding lasted no longer than about a week (well. fingers crossed at this point), and the pain was about the same as bad period pain for me.
I never realised how incredibly common miscarriage is. It seems every second person I speak with has experienced it in some form or another.
I am incredibly encouraged to hear of those that go on to have happy and healthy pregnancies and wish you a wonderfully happy and healthy one labybf!!
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