Bec & Leah , Aj too
I am so sorry for your loss and your treatment . It really is so unfair and heartbreaking.

I did receive some things and keepsakes last year but not enough. I was talking to my midwife friend today about this. She recently nursed her first mum with baby who has passed away in utero. She had been very supportive to me (lives 3 hrs away though) and was very sensitive to this poor mum too.

I told her I was going to do something similar with another friend of mine from a loss support group - for our local hospital to consider. Midwife friend said she would be interested seeing what we came with. A protocol for bereavement especially for any pregnancy loss.

I thing most important thing is time with your baby and for them to encourage it for our sakes. I wanted my baby with me but had only a few minutes really after her birth - Charlotte was 26weeks. They only asked me once before I went to maternity ward and our adopted son was coming in so I said not then, the DR came -then they said have a rest - then the next thing they were preparing to discharge me only 8 hours after her birth.

I also received a teddy bear from Teddylove club - but that needs to be at the hospital.

~Handprints & footprints ( I only got footprints lucky to get these)

~Photos of baby dressed or wrapped as a baby would be.

~Private room away from main maternity ward - and sign on door ( not stating it loudly but a special code to advise all staff of pregnancy loss-
I went back for a curette but haemorrhaged so stayed overnight in maternity and was right near main desk - a cleaner said something about baby to me or visitors coming in soon - so upsetting).

~Someone to offer to call SIDs & Kids /Sands etc so they can offer immediate telephone or personal support and memory ideas - as you said you walked away with nothing - that breaks my heart for your loss even more.

~Memory boxes
~quilts
~angel size clothes to keep separately -whatever program the hospital has - Nepean has a set for baby to wear and one for parents to keep.

~Name arm bands /tags (even if not worn by baby)

~Baby name card - and weights/measurements etc.

~My friend today said her hospital had a flow chart - of questions/ items - to be ticked off - asked if want baby in room or .... ,
did family want to see baby ...
had photos been taken ?
social worker /Chaplain ?
I didn't get full list but I will ask her for a copy.
so everyone knew where the mum was up to - if you know what I mean - they didn't keep asking same questions and everything was covered.

There are just so many things - Sids & kids ?Sands should really do a survey of members and report responses to hospitals.

Even with m/c there has to be more awareness that we all grieve deeply .All the hopes and dreams for future are wrapped up in our tiny babies no matter what gestation . They are not

oh, it's nothing at this stage anyway.
That is the saddest thing I have heard.
Let me know what you come up with there are other memory ideas listed
on sticky thread above.

I wish you all the best.

edited to add - yes I agree we are not in a functioning state at the time of our loss and afterwards it is too late to make memories and we live in regret at the things we wished we had asked for rest of our life.