Darling, you are not to blame. I promise. Please don't add self-loathing to an already heavy burden.

I'm so so sorry this has happened. I know first hand how much it hurts when your partner doesn't want to try again. I hope your friends are right and he is just protecting himself. It really does suck though that his self preservation is the cause of your suffering. Not fair at all.

FWIW, My DP said 'Never ever ever again' after I mc in 2008. He is now considering a second child when we're financially stable. Men say a lot of stuff. Especially in the heat of the moment.

Be gentle with yourself honey.