what can I expect now??

[sirenz]

So we found out yesterday, after bleeding on the weekend, that we have lost our baby

We have opted to m/c naturally rather than have a d & C.

What should I expect to happen, as last time I had the d&c, so i'm not sure what to expect.

The mw was very helpful yesterday in explaining what will happen and that it should take up to 2 weeks to complete, but I would like to hear your experience with waiting to m/c.

I understand it will be emotional an painful, but i'm prepared for this and i'm ready to accept it. The only part i'm not sure that i can handle is if I lost it all in the toilet. I'm not sure I could bring myself to flush my baby down the toilet How will I know when I have passed my baby out? what will it look like?

thanks for your help.

[CinderToriella]

Iam so sorry for your loss- i do not have advise but know im thinking of u

[Trillian]

Oh no I am so sorry that things have turned out this way for you

[ElleJay]

I am so very sorry for your loss

When I had my m/c - naturally - it was so very painful, but over very quickly - I just wanted to let you know I am here for you

[Mildez]

I am so sorry your going through this.
As for what you will see it will depend on the size of bub as to if you can identify him/her in what you will pass. For me it was too early so I couldn't really see anything except placental tissue and blood/clots. With my second loss bub was in the tube so was surgically removed and taken to pathology so other then on scan I didn't see anything.
If you are worried about what you will pass whilst going to the loo or just sitting there as its the most comfortable sometimes maybe hold some toilet paper under your vagina so nothing will be lost into the toilet. If you look (which I couldn't help but look) and see bub has been passed maybe you could put it in a pot or something and grown some flowers in it (just making some suggestions)
Once again I am sorry you are going through this.

[tellytubby]

Hi Sirenz
I'm so sorry this has happened, i really had a good feeling that things would work out for you

When I had my mc, i was bleeding a lot, with clots, then there was a clot with 'extras'. I dont know how you could explain it. It was so clear that there was more than just blood, you could see lining, .. gee i really don't know how to put it in words. But - it was very obvious.

HTH, and take care of yourself
xx