Oh Michelle. I am so incredibly sorry to hear your news.

It sounds a lot like my first m/c also - like Meredith, our baby was there, but it was like suspended animation - little arms and legs, but no movement, and no heartbeat. To say that it broke my heart does not do justice to how I actually felt - there really are no words to describe what this does to you.

I wish I could answer your question as to "why?" but I can't - I still ask myself the same question and since I never find answers, I usually end up blaming myself. But I have to pick myself up and remind myself that it's not my fault and that I didn't do anything wrong - and neither did you. This isn't your fault.

And take it from me, you can go on to have a healthy baby after such a devastating loss - I did. I won't lie to you, it was a very stressful PG. The innocence and joy of PG had been ripped away and I don't think I really believed it was happening until my son was actually born. But please believe in your ability to do this, ok?

I know nothing I can say can heal the pain and hurt you are feeling right now, but rest assured you are surrounded by people who can understand and appreciate those feelings and the depths of despair that you feel you are in right now. So please chat to us - and we'll help you through.