I just thought of something else - perhaps he is reluctant to set the record straight because he doesn't want to lose face? Maybe you could suggest he tell people that he's been doing more research into foetal development because of your current bub, and he's realised that the baby was further along than he thought - that way he's letting people know that you're not how he portrayed you, but he also doesn't look nasty, KWIM?
One thought - does your FS/IVF clinic have a counselling service? If it does, maybe you could chat to them about ways to handle this situation? They might give you some good strategies, ways to broach the subject with DH etc.
Last edited by Leabie; November 17th, 2009 at 05:39 PM.
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BOC, that story just breaks my heart. You must be such a strong person to have gone through all of that! I've struggled with my DH not wanting me to tell anyone about our m/c and not being willing to talk about it with me, but at least he acknowledges it happened and is there for me with a hug when I'm upset. I think Leabie's suggestion of checking out if your clinic has a counselling service sounds like a great idea, especially if you can get him to go with you.
BOC I'm so sorry that you have had to go through this on your own, I would not have coped.
I can only hope that he is being more supportive now, and hope that you both spend a happy life toghether as a family X
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You deserve to be treated better than that.
You must be such a strong person to have gone through all of that! I've struggled with my DH not wanting me to tell anyone about our m/c and not being willing to talk about it with me, but at least he acknowledges it happened and is there for me with a hug when I'm upset. I think Leabie's suggestion of checking out if your clinic has a counselling service sounds like a great idea, especially if you can get him to go with you.
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