We've just started with DS, not because I initiated it but because he refuses to wear nappies and insists on being in 'big boy jocks'. I'm sort of just figuring it out as I go. I ask him very often if he needs to do a wee or a poo and try to sit him on the toilet at least hourly. Also, if he does a wee in his pants I don't make a big deal of it, I take off his jocks and show him that it is wet and we go into the laundry and wash them together.

If he does a poop he gets really excited, we go and scrap it off into the toilet and I let him flush.

TBH at this stage it is just about his awareness, I'm not expecting any miracles but I don't really have a choice because he gets hysterical if I dare try to put a nappy on. I've have convinced him however to wear pull-ups when we are out and at night. He now tells me if he needs to do a poo or a wee but we rarely get to the toilet in time, he usually tells me as the wee is running down his leg. I have also got special stickers and he gets one each time he tells me he needs to go.

HTH
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