The routine has not changed but being a single mum i do shared care with the father. For the few months that the boy's were trained the father would not believe me. He said they still would not use the loo for him. I don't know how he delt with the situation i'm hoping it was not with smacking but he does not communicate with me very well. When we were together and i was trying with the eldest boy he would swear at him and put him outside. Broke my heart that was the day i left. He now lives with his parents and thats where his visitation happens so i have my fingers cross his parents would not let things like that happen. I feel so out of control when it comes to my kids.