5 year old wetting the bed/pull-ups ...help!

[LimeSlice]

I wish I could say he does it because if something but he does it every night :-( we limit dri ks and he does 2 big wees before bed but still wets his nappy :-(

might just keep using the special sheet and see if he can teach himself :-(

It takes a lot of muscle control not to wee when you really need to, and it is something that is learned over time - it is really difficult for a small child to control, they simply physically cannot do it a lot of the time. He will grow out of it. xx

[Jellyfish]

It is very, very normal! I was in pull ups until I was about 7 and I wasn't the only one around because I never felt odd, I definitely had other friends who were similar and went on sleep overs etc with no problems. I was actually completely shocked when my daughter night trained the same time she day trained because it was such a foreign idea to me. I used to sleep very, very deeply (still do) so it was really difficult for me to 'wake up'. Dreams of being on the toilet were quite frequent and felt very real so I wouldn't realise I was still in bed.

I would just not make a big deal about it for now, stick with the pull ups and see what happens with more time personally. If you push him it will probably just be stressful for you both if it doesn't work.

[~Raven~]

I have an 11yo that has never been night dry.
A 9yo that wet every night till he was 7 and will still occasionally wet the bed.
A 6yo that was dry at 3. Once he was day trained he was dry over night also and has never wet the bed.
A 4yo that is still wet most nights but we have a dry pull-up twice a week on average. She has been day trained since 2.

My thoughts are that if they have no control over what's going on then all you can do is try not to let them be stressed out. It's different if they are too lazy (or scared) to get out of bed if they wake during the night (I believe this was part of DS2's issues).

You can get a medication to slow kidney function during the night but I think 5 is too young for that.

It is very common too it's just that its not spoken about much. Out of 30 kids that went on DS's school camp there were 8 using pull-ups.

[Freya]

My 6yo is still wearing a pull-up to bed because he wets during the night. He has been toilet trained since 3 and half years old. My nearly 5yo day and night trained within a few months at 3-4 years old but he has the bladder of a camel. My 3.5yo is just day trained but still in pull ups at night.

DS2's developmental paed told me that children lack to necessary cognitive function to hold urine overnight until they are close to 8 years old and that he would never worry about a child still night wetting until they are 10 years old with no signs of it slowing. Then they would investigate urinary issues before they worried about it being a psychological issue. So I refuse to worry about it now. They'll night train when they night train.

[boomba]

Thanks everyone your response are invaluable.

Sme nights he will lbe dry all night and then be too lazy to get out of bed in the morning to do his wee :-(

its more DH that is pushing him to be out of nappies he is the harder parent.

Thanks you. I will look into the alarm when he gets older if he still lis on nappies x