Child care and toilet training.

[Hansie]

I have just gone through this with my day-care my DS will be 2.5 next month, but he was moved up to the next room at the beginning of the yr. There is a group that my DS has been part of since he has been there and a couple of them were already TT'd and as long as DS went and sat on the potty they were happy to let him stay in the room. He then started to refuse to sit on the potty and he started only going up to the next room and certain times to be with his friends. He was miserable I could see the change in him straight away would cry when I dropped him off and every time I went I would say "what has changed" and I got the same answer "nothing kids are all friends playing nicely but just TTing". I am happy to say I was definately not ready for TTing myself expecting number 2, house fully carpeted and I firmly believed that he didn't know that he needed the toilet, but seeing him so miserable and the fact that day-care were pushing him whilst there I decided I had to try for him. We got rid of the nappy during the day straight into big boy undies and for long trips out we did put a nappy back on. DS could hold for over 4hrs with constant sits on the potty and when you put his nappy on to go out he would flood it. This was a big eye opener as I realised that he did in deed know that he needed to go as it was instantly that he had the nappy on. We did this constantly for 2 weeks (sent him to day-care in big boy pants and lots of changes of clothes inc a wet bag to put them in) and then that weekend we went to a friends house no nappy (they have a DS the same age so going through the same floorboards as well lol) and DS told us both times that he needed to go and sat on the toilet to do wees and poos. From then on he was just in big boy pants. He wears pull ups at night but is 85-90% dry most mornings.

Sorry it is so long but I just wanted to show/say that I understand how you feel and where you are at. I just want to put out there that maybe your DD is getting more upset because at day-care they are asking her to do the whole TT but at home she doesn't have to..she maybe getting confused. I now see that this was what DS was partly feeling as well as sepeartion from his friends and he took 4 weeks to get the hang fully of letting everyone know he needed to go to the toilet and even now at least once a week and DS only goes to day-care 3 times a week he comes home with a accident (poo) pair of pants because they haven't heard him or got to him in time.

:-)

Hansie x