Fiona - are having a similar problem with our little girl. she is 3 in july and has been toilet trained for about 2 months. only had a few little dribbles and goes all night without getting wet but she refuses to do poo in the toilet. but she does tell me she wants to do it in her nappie which is better than her undies. ive tried the listening "can you hear the plops?" doesnt work, have tried the sticker chart "worked wonderful for the wees but no good on the poos", ive even gone as far as buying her the new Fisher Price Pirate Ship that she wanted and it's sitting were she can see it to encourage her but still nothing (its still sitting there to this day). the health centre that some kids just do it. my only thing would be to ask her to tell you when she needs to do and by cheap nappies (like i do) and get her to do it in the nappie! its going to be a lot nicer for you. i will keep you posted on my situation. take care narelle