I would try putting him in a pair of undies and starting to take notice of *when* he is eliminating. Then you will be able t encourage him to use the toilet - put him on it - at the appropriate times.
Once you know when he is going, and his being in undies that DO get wet and aren't nice to sit in with poo in them, he may just start being more proactive. ...? Summer is a great time for some pants off action - another good way to actually see and know when he is needing to be put on the toilet.
I only suggest this as by this age, my eldest were at kinder, and nappy changing was just simply not done, so she needed to be TTd anyway, I didn't have the option of waiting for her to do it in her own good time. (She was TD anyway, so I never had to , but this would have been what I would have done - and will be doing with DD2 shorlty if there is still no signs of wanted to get out of the nappies!)
At 3 and a half, I think that he will very quickly be able to tell when he's wet or dirty if he only wore jocks. Let him have the responsibility of telling you himself when he has or when he needs to go.
I think pull ups are over hyped personally, although I did like the pull up swimmers.
Never ask him if he needs to go. Instead, tell him to let you know when he needs to go to the toilet - again giving him the responsibility. I know it might seem harsh to some, but they really do enjoy having some form of control over themselves at this age
With DS, we went cold turkey. Got rid of nappies all together. He had a couple of wee accidents in the first 4 hours, and then not again. He certainly worked out very quickly what the full bladder feeling meant. As for #2's - that took 2 weeks total but he had bowel issues beforehand that didn't help.
A sticker chart in the toilet room itself was a huge help (especially with #2's) and it helped to keep the reward associated with the act of going to the toilet. My son gets distracted so easily and I figured if we left the reward until 10-15 mins later, he may not associate it with the correct behavior I was trying to reward
My number 1 tip? Don't stress If he sees how trouble free you are about it, he's likely not to stress out and catch on very quickly.
I could have written this exact post. Dd is just 3 and is exactly the same. Its so frustrating i dont know what to do anymore. She can hold ALL day and ends up with a uti or will just happily wee herself. I have no answers or advice, im frustrated beyond belief
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