help & suggestions needed

[Rowellen]

It has only been a few days in undies. Give him a bit longer. It only took a handful of poo accidents for my DS to decide he didn't like going in his undies. He hasn't had a poo accident since about a year ago. It took several months for the wees. We went cold turkey during the day after a while and just dealt with the mess. I think pullups gives them the ok to go in their pants and slows down the learning process. We took him to the toilet every 2 hours at the most whether he was showing signs or not. Now he will either take himself or we will notice him doing the wee dance and tell him he must go. He is often just too busy playing to notice such mundane things as bladder fullness

Do you have a garden? DS loves weeing in the garden and sometimes when he is fighting going to the toilet, he'll happily go outside.

[TaRhLi.]

My Dd is 3.2 yrs and we have tried the TT 3 separate times with her now and she is just so resistant to wanting to use the toilet.

We started a sticker chart and in a total of about 4mths of attempts she has 6 stickers for wees on the potty and 2 for poos on the potty, and she will tell anyone and everyone - including Santa when she had her photo taken - that stickers are for when she does wees & poos on the potty but she still won't take that step.

Last time we tried we had a full day of accidents (10 times or more) the next day we started again with 'big girl knickers' and after 3 accidents she went and got a pull up and told us she wanted to wear that and not knickers. When she wears knickers and has an accident she will go into the bathroom (where our toilet and her potty is) and take of the wet pants wipe herself with wet wipes, put on dry knickers and put the wet one in the 'wet knicker' bucket, so she knows about the clean up consequences but we just can't get her on the potty or toilet.

She starts 3yr old kinder in Feb but she doesn't need to be toilet trained - luckily- but they have asked if she can wear pull ups to kinder as part of the day they get all the kids to go to the toilet and wash hands so they told me pull ups were going to help her with the pulling her pants up and down but she wasn't going to have to suffer the embarrassment of having accidents in front of her friends (which would mortify DD). They told me I would probbaly find that once she gets into the habit at Kinder and watches the other children that she will decide she wanted to be like them and not wear nappies anymore.

At this stage I'm just doing a wait and see with her as before we started the TT process she would always tell us if she had done a poo or if her nappy was wet, but now she hides it from us when she goes.