TT is up there with UN negotiation skills hun, give yourselves some slack
She's been sick so everything's going to be harder.
We don't do undies here, but it is warm enough all the time.
When my DD was TTing we spoke to our childcare and asked them what they did. They were excellent. She was TT when they spotted her to be ready and in 2 days. DS is proving more difficult, but I don't have great CC carers to help this time lol.
Crap mothers beat their children and withhold food and love. You are not one of those - I know because she has lovely undies I thought I was the only mother with a 5yo not TTed at night....turns out I'm not...and you aren't. The kids in her class must be super at weeing - doesn't make them super at other things though.

1. What about some pullups? Or training pants? They put on like undies, but will contain a wee.

2. No I don't think it would have scared her, but the illness might make it a more drawn out process.

3. TBH i don't think there is a way of avoiding accidents unless you are one their backs all the time. I do find with DS he has certain little 'signs' when he is about to wee and often I can catch him in time...but I've been doing this with him for ages now.