thanks for all your replies

Maya - I love the idea of EC and it really makes sense but I don't know if I am that aware of DS... will have to put in the effort though cause I don't want to be washing sheets everyday!!

Po5 and Kim, I don't really want to be waking him either. He is 3 and 1/2 and I am getting pressure from OH that he should be out of night nappies. I have told OH that I don't think he is quite ready yet cause he has never woken with a dry nappy but as DS seemed ok with going to bed without nappies I followed both thier leads. I don't really want to wake him either cause I think that defeats the purpose of him learning to hold on through the night but everyone I know IRL have done that

So last night I was going to bed @ 11pm and woke and carried him to the toilet and he wee'd. I eventually went to bed about 1amish and I heard him stirring (like you said Maya) and thought I should wake him but as I had only did it a couple of hours earlier I didn't. Next thing you know he woke up wet. I asked him gently about it this morning and he said he woke up wet and that he must have wet himself in his sleep. Could he not be ready to TT at night? how long should I persist before putting nappies back on him?

I do have 2 set's of waterproof sheets etc... so that isn't too much of an issue but I don't want him to get to the point of thinking less of himself cause he keeps wetting the bed. I use to wet the bed at night occasionaly right upto I was 9 so it won't surprise me if it takes him awhile but I don't want him in nappies until then either argh....