Is this normal?

[Meluchja]

My little girl will turn 3 in May.

She was pretty much toilet trained about a month ago. Willing and telling me she wanted to use the toilet for both #'s. She was waking up with a dry nappy, and never wetting her undies during the day.

All of a sudden about 2 weeks ago, she has done a 360 turn for the worse. Constantely wetting herself, in her bed, floor. She still does #2's in the loo (apart from 2 occassions).

Is this normal? Is it normal for her to take 2 steps forward, 1 step back?

DH and I don't know what to do. I think being to harsh on her when she does do it, is the wrong thing to do. But DH thinks she should get roused on and put in time out. I don't agree. I wanting to take the more patient approach. What do you think? Have any of you been through this. What worked?

Any help and advice would be grand.

[sneakysparkle]

Sorry I only just found your post!
I dont know from personal experience (only TTing now!) but from what Ive read it is normal to have relapses. You are right to not be harsh - its not naughty, its more of an emotional issue. Reward the good, instead of punishing the bad.
HTH

[Meluchja]

Well, we are slowly getting there again. She is still doing #2's in the loo, but it's #1's that is going slowly. But have started the reward chart again, which seems to be working. So I guess it's one day at a time again. Thanks for posting, it's good to be reassured what your doing is normal. Thanks.

[Captain]

Yeah, we just went through this, after a year of being TT she started wetting again. I didn't deal with it very well, got a bit frustrated, with having newborn sleep deprivation and things got way worse. She started fully refusing the toilet. Once it I pulled myself together and didn't let my frustration show, she slowly started getting better. It's been a long road though so hang in there. Know that by being patient and not being harsh you are doing the best thing.

[Meluchja]

Thank you so much for your words of advice and reassurance. I must admit initially, I got fustrated, and maybe that made the situation worse. But hopefully we have both learnt fromt that. I could only imagine how fustrated I would be with having no sleep and a NB.