Have you tried a pull up nappy? My dd1 wouldn't pooh in the toilet for ages! She would always ask for a pull up to do a pooh and then one day decided to do a pooh in the toilet (I was at work mind you so I missed it)! So despite all my frustration and going crazy thinking of 'ideas' on how to get her to pooh in the toilet she did it by herself. I used to stress about 3 y/old kinder what if she needed to pooh, as the teacher said DD1 was at kinder for 2.5 hours a week so chances were it wouldn't happen...and it didn't. So I guess I'm saying don't stress too much as it'll stress you probably more than her! If you've had a bit on she might also be picking up on that and be looking for attention if the attention has been elsewhere for whatever reason. My DD even now waits till she's busting to go as sometimes is distracted (doesn't wet herself though just makes it!) so it could be distraction or laziness but I'd seriously go with a pull up, that way you're not having extra stress cleaning up and you can explain to her that they are her special toilet pants until she's ready again for her undies maybe? That she still needs to go to the toilet, it is just in case until she practices and is really good at going to the toilet. The pull up does get a bit wet unlike a nappy so she'll be more likely to use the toilet as it wouldn't be a nice feeling being wet I wouldn't imagine. Good luck :-)