Hi Andie, I've been meaning to come back and update but never quite got there! I'm very pleased to report that we seem to have solved the problem My girlfriend had a similar problem with her son and gave me her solution which was to write a book for her. Essentially, it's a little story about "The adventures of DD2 and the toilet" It starts with a few pages about DD2 and her family, where she lives, her kindy teachers, what she likes doing, her favourite toys etc etc. Then goes into how she's been doing really well at getting her wees in the toilet but doesn't do too well with her poos. But this makes her knickers all yucky and mummy has to throw them in the bin! Oh No! So one day, she decides to do her poos in the toilet instead. She tells mummy that she feels a poo coming and we all go to the toilet. Mummy holds her hand so she won't be scared and she pushes the poo into the toilet. It goes plop and we flush it away. Shoo Poo! She's very proud of herself as she washes her hands and wants to all her poos in the toilet from now on.

I just printed out the words in big type and stuck them into a little book with a cardboard cover and A4 pages folded in half. DD1 illustrated it for me (it's very cute!!) and DD2 thought it was fantastic! Within a couple of days she started saying "I feel a poo coming" and just went to the toilet and did it!! Quite amazing actually, it's still a favourite book for her, she likes just reading it to herself.

Anyway, it sounds over the top and reading it aloud on the plane to Fiji was interesting but it worked so I'm a happy woman! We still have an accident maybe once a week but it seems to have worked amazingly well. She's got all her new Hi-5 knickers now and is so proud of herself Oh, and she won't do it in the potty, has to be the toilet so double yay!!

Good luck! I totally sympathise so hope this works for you too. Rewards helped but this personalised book seemed to make it click for her.