Yes! We're in the same boat at the moment. Our DS1 didn't have an issue with poos on the potty and then toilet, but DS2 just won't go poo on either. He waits until he's in a pull up for a sleep, before going. So frustrating. We've also had quite a few accidents in his pants. I'm not sure what to suggest, as we didn't go through this with our first son. We've got a sticker chart next to the toilet (as he got a bit lazy with his wees) and not sure what else to try. We're trying not to get angry when he has accidents and talk about his big brother doing poos on the toilet. He got to the point where he started regressing and didn't want to wee on the toilet, so he's now doing 'big boy, stand up wees'. Still no poos yet.
Sorry I'm not able to offer any suggestions. I guess they won't be doing number 2's in their pants when they're 21!
Right there with you. No ideas sorry. I've tried everything. We can only get poos if we accidentally catch one. Hopefully someone will have the magic answer for us
My son went through this and was another one of those toilet trained overnight kids I found when I noticed it was about time for him to do a poo I would put him on the toilet (bought the cusey tooshie) and say it was time to practise out pushing sounds and wait within 15 minuted he usually had results he got bored of that I would brush his teeth or something to keep him occupied becase just sitting on there long enough seemed to finally make him want to go
My dd went through a phase of refusing to use the toilet for poos and for her it was a shame thing, so I started to talk really positively about poo and how great it was. My dd was under two, but at sam's age you could even talk about digestive systems and the process of making poo. Then I ignored all accidents for a few days...no mentioning or even wrinkling of noses. Then I started to show dd her poo and talk about how normal it is...this was a bingo moment for us, as she stopped running off to hide and started telling us when a poo was coming. That meant I could get her onto the potty in time.
Kids are very possessive about their poo...they need to feel it is safe to share it with others iTMS?
We're fortunate enough that with Sam and his holding on until he can't any more, we are getting very solid, very formed bowel motions. No need to scrub undies here! The night he had corn and grated carrot in his dinner - I didn't dare put him in anything other than a pull up!
Arcadia, I think you've got some great ideas there. I'm honestly quite tempted to really go with the visual approach and show him next time I go... Will be tricky to avoid the potential trauma generated by me having AF this week, so perhaps next week! Might definitely be time to start getting excited about poo, no matter where it is.
It's comforting to know that Sam's not alone in this, so thank you all for sharing! Day care said the same thing, that they've had other kids do the same and they do eventually come through it. But the holding on so he couldn't wee thing really scared me yesterday.
My DS refused to Poo on the toilet for a very different reason and I never thought he would ever be like other kids and go. However some of our approaches may help.
We talked about poo in a way so as to normalise it for him, we didnt mention poo or needing to go to the toilet for pooing, we merely read books about poo.
Poo Zoo, Where is the Poop? and Everybody Poo's were in our regular reading collection. This way he was able to get used to the idea of pooing and poo being normal without feeling any pressure.
Does your DS understand reward charts? We were put onto a behavior modification regime where we would sit DS on the toilet no mention of poo, just sitting for up to 5 minutes at a time. Yes it is a bit of a struggle sometimes but the end result was worth it. He got a sticker for sitting and/or weeing and then if a poo happened then another sticker and a huge fuss made for the poo. He did get sick of the chart and eventually we just made a collage of stickers with the same sticker principle in mind. We sat on the toilet religiously, after breakfast lunch and dinner as this is the usual time most kids will feel the urge to go and then intermittently throughout the day. Never mentioning poo just that we would sit on the toilet for a spell. Eventually he would poo on the toilet. Also make sure that you have your potty and/or toilet set up in such a way as to help good pooing practice so knees slightly bend allowing for the bowels to relax with his feet being well supported underneath him.
I wish you the very best of luck and hopefully he will poop again on his own without too many more hurdles for you.
We had the same problem too - the pps have had some great suggestions! But I will say it does happen, just takes longer. DS now has all the poos in the toilet at home, but we have yet to conquer this at someone else's place. This is our final hurdle. It's taken a couple of months of undie cleaning though. I basically said "yucky" to poo, and we talked about how it didn't feel nice.
I have heard that the poo drop in the toilet can be scary, I was about to buy a potty to try pooing on that - you could have him choose one, or choose a special seat for the toilet. I've also heard people talk about the poo wanting to go in the toilet to have a party with the other poos (yes, lol). DS quite liked that concept. The sticker chart worked wonders for us though. We went and bought a piece of card and some stickers - he chose it all (duck stickers). I hung it in the toilet and he wanted a duck. I said "they're for when you do a poo in the toilet". Then DH brought some chocolate home (like the little round ones in a stick - does that make sense? So he gets like one square at a time) for when he does poo in the toilet. So he got very excited about ducks and chocolate. The ducks are gone now, but the chocolate remains until it's all gone. I am putting some in the nappy bag for when we go to other people's houses though!
So I'm not above bribery. Or do we call it rewards, lol.
And your world becomes about the toilet - but try not to pass that on to your DS, they do tend to become obsessed too!
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