He's got some special matchbox/hotwheels cars waiting for him. He's obsessed with motorbikes and planes, and he knows that he gets the motorbike first when he does a poo in the potty or the toilet. I'm certainly not above bribing with chocolate, now that he's finally decided he likes it. But we've had to put the toys out of sight because he just got so stressed and upset by it.

My current approach is to be really open about when I need to poo. Door open and I talk to him about how they can be tricky to get out sometimes and can feel like they're stuck... He even gets to see my poo in the toilet... He knows when he needs to go, and just simply refuses to try. Refuses to sit and wait and see what happens. So every single day is either no poo at all, or a poo in undies, and me trying hard not to worry about whether he's making himself constipated or not.

Each day this week, there's been no poo when we're at home. He has pooped in his pants a total of three times across his two days at day care. And today, he waited until I'd gone to the GP and then went in his pants for daddy. I just feel like we're getting nowhere, and starting to worry about why he won't poo when I'm around. I have no idea if we need help on this one, or even where we would go to get help. For now... I guess we use pull ups if we can see something is brewing when we need to go out. I've had to throw out one pair of undies this week - they hadn't been rinsed at day care, and it was either lots of puking or they go in the bin. Funny how it's switched - I never had problems changing his nappies, but now I just can't deal with poo in undies! Probably a really good thing that we never did the cloth nappy thing.