Thanks guys.
I think I just assumed that as soon as she started pees in the toilet the other would automatically follow but that doesn't seem to be the case!

What we've decided to do is what Cristy suggested about the pull up - I've asked her to tell me when she needs to poo so we can put a pull up on. She seems ok with that, and she's pretty regular in that department usually so I should be able to catch it LOL.

We've started a sticker chart as well as a form of gentle encouragement but we're not pushing her. To be honest I'm so over this whole business, I don't really care where she poos as long as it's not on my dining room chairs like she did the other day!!