When they just wont poo!?

[Abigail]

Thanks for that There is a lot of great information there but unfortunately not much of it new to us It feels like there is no end in sight for my little one Back to the GP we go and hope there is something, anything else that can be done

[emc2]

How old is he? There are books about doing poos like "Everybody Poops" for example too. Don't know if that was suggested in the other thread.

Probiotics, yoghurt or Yakult would be my other suggestion. Baby probiotics has helped my baby - I know they get a lot of natural ones from breastmilk too.

[jackrose]

Oh, Abigail. That must just be horrible for you both.

I think you are way beyond any of the normal remedies, way past pears, and brown sugar. If this has been going on for such a long time it is more than likely psychological.

I think your GP is negligent to refuse to refer you to a specialist. A specialist is exactly what you need. A GP is just that, a general practitioner. They are by definition, fabulous at being the front line in health care and should be ready to refer to appropriate specialists when things are either out of their knowledge base or not improving with the treatment plan they develop.

Please, get a second or even third opinion if that is what it takes to get some specialist advice. I had to see 3 GPs before I found someone reasonable enough to refer me. Once I saw a pead we were on the path to recovery and it was a really simple solution. One where I just needed professional and knowledgeable advice. If I didn't chase up that third GP, I would have absolutely been in your shoes, looking at 12 months of constipation. As it was we went through 8 months I think??

I say stick to the parachoc, I know you say you have been using it but there must be a reason it is not working. Forgive me if I am wrong with this, but for parachoc to work in chronic cases it must be given daily without fail. If you skip a day, skip a dose, you are back to square one. You must keep stools soft for a very long time for the psychological stress to wear off. I was also advised to give a dose higher than recommended on the bottle. I was told to give an amount that meant that I could see an 'oily' substance in the stools then lessen just enough so that it was just noticeable. This was to ensure that we were getting maximum benefit on the lubrication. I was also advised to not even consider weaning for at least 6 months and then to do it ever so slowly, decreasing by a few ml every few days. I really recommend you see a pead specialist so that you can get someone on your side and really feel confident about sorting this out.

I will try to find some more of the threads I have read and contributed in so you can read more of the experiences of people who have been through this. Taurean's experiences and advice in this thread, particularly her realisation that it was the way that she was administering the parachoc that made all the difference may shed some light on why things have not been working for you.

:hugs: The time of constipation in my house was terrible and my heart goes out to you and your little one.

ETA: I just have to respond to a few things in your OP.
With regards to chronic ongoing constipation in children:

• It is not about diet.
• Your GP's opinion that constipation for 12 months is 'normal' is sheer stupidity.
• There is a serious misunderstanding of children and constipation and we have to stop thinking of them as mini adults. The reasons for their constipation and the solutions for them are not the same as for adults.

[Gigi]

That sounds really serious, if the Parachoc is not working. I would try a different GP, until you find one that listens to you. Your are your child's best advocate, you see what your child (and family) goes thru constantly, due to the problem.

I am not positive that he WON"T poo, if he is saying "it hurts", i think anyone, would put off poo-ing, if it hurt them, to poo.

i hope you don't have to wait much longer, for someone (medical) to take you seriously, and investigate what is going on with your son's ability to poop.

[jackrose]

I just did some searching on here and realised I have read and replied to a thread you started last year! Heavens, you have been going through this for a long time.


Keep searching out help from the specialists until you get answers that resonate with you.

[Abigail]

Reading that old thread of mine just makes it so much worse, I was guessimating times before and to know its definately been well over twelve months just makes everything seem so much harder and horrible for DS.

We have been using the parachoc religiously. Never missing a dose. We had done really well to decrease his dose and keep him pooing without issue/ It felt like there was an end in sight for him and since he has had the gastro and then gone back to semi solid poos its all started up again with the screaming. When I say decrease his dose that is to say he is still well within the dosing ranges on the bottle

DS is over 3 years old now. An example of a conversation we had just the other day when I was watching him do his little I dont want to poo but my body is making me run around

Me: Please do a poo
DS: No
Me: Why not?
DS: It hurts



Its also very frustrating to talk to other mums about this who just dont get the scope of what this is like for us, they mean well and Im sure their solutions have worked for them. It makes me feel like we are going through this alone and no one is really listening to me. Thank you for all your posts Jackrose both in the old thread and this one It makes us (well me) feel less alone in this battle of poo.

[Gigi]

How frustrating, hugs to you and your DS.