Back while I get the chance to respond.

Heather - she's not afraid of the toilet splashing, she's done a few in the toilet, just no motivation to keep going once its done. That cutting away the nappy is how my brother trained his son though, but I can't even get her into the toilet in the first place. She has discussed poos with her cousin who is 4 months older and toilet trained, but the conversation didn't motivate her to change from nappies to undies.

San - I've tried the different things as well, I had a chart that had different shapes on it, and for each one she did, each shape meant 3 or 4 things she could pick from. That was the most successful, she did 2 poos in a row that time LOL.. I don't think she would be motivated to clean herself, she would just flat out refuse to do it.

Arcadia - yeah thats her normal pooing pattern. Sometimes she gets a bit clogged up and we give her movicol, but mostly its 3 a day, sometimes they are hard, sometimes they are loose-ish, but nothing out of the ordinary. I haven't got that book though, so I'll look for it. For the most part, we are calm now, and we just change her, and we don't make a fuss. Which is fine since she's in nappies.

Mak - we sort of tried that when she was in daycare, she knew she had to wear undies that day and she was fine with that - she would poo on the way home in her undies - frustrating! lol

Thanks everyone, she said the other day that she would poo in the toilet when she turned 4, well today's the day, and I've cleaned one poo already (in a nappy) and she came to me straight after doing it and said "mum I've done a poo, I missed doing it in the toilet". I told her it didn't matter, there's always next time to get it in there.

So who knows - maybe she will train before she's 5 LOL