they see horney goat weed in the aisles a woolies mmmm other things that might help is buy yourself some nice underwear to show off or get you hair done you know something to make your self esteem go up usually puts me in the mood, I get just committing to make an effort also helps for example my problem was going to bed much earlier so one night a week maybe I would stay up and then at least we were awake when we both went to bed.