Improving libido?

[Beautiful Disaster]

I just ordered a bracelet from an amber seller said to help too I give anything a try

[CC11]

Before bubs and pregnancy, I had a high libido, after bubs, hubby was lucky to be getting some once a week, if that.
For me, the decrease didn't really bother me, or perhaps that was because I was so sleep deprived, but for hubby, whose love language is touch, and who has a super high libido, he needed the intimacy to be able to feel loved and connected to me.
So this is what I did to try and increase my libido:

I figured out the possible reasons why I wasn't feeling 'in the mood' (not including change in hormones) - and for me they were these:

tired/lack of sleep
low energy from taking care of baby all day
empty love bank (from 5 love languages by gary chapman)
feeling unappreciated/overwhelmed/undesirable

So this is what hubby does if he decides he wants to get some action on any particular day:

In the morning he would take care of bubs so I could get an extra hour of sleep and start my day relaxed without a toddler pulling on me while I tried to pee/brush teeth/make brekky etc. That extra hour to myself in the morning really helps boost my energy levels
Similar to to the sleep issue, hubby will sometimes offer to watch baby for a solid hour whilst I do something that nourishes me - like reading, or yoga etc
My love language is acts of service, so for instance, if I come back from putting baby down for a nap and I see the dirty dishes have been cleaned, or the laundry has been put away, or her toys picked up etc I feel instantly relaxed and thankful to my partner for helping me. If there's no chore that needs to be done I can put that energy towards being intimate and not be thinking about all of the other things that I should be putting my energy towards completing. Even if acts of service isn't your love language, having hubby take care of urgent chores so you don't have to can be a real turn on - other love languages are touch (you might like a foot rub), quality time (go out for dinner with hubby), receiving gifts (bunch of flowers), words of affirmation (comments from hubby like - you are an inspiration to me, I can't believe how lucky I am to be with a goddess like you etc)
Being a mother can become all consuming to the point I sometimes forget that I am also a woman as well and I end up neglecting myself. Feeling good about the way you look helps you feel more desirable. So hubby can take care of bubs whilst you go get a haircut, facial, manicure, wax etc whatever self-maintenance thing you like to do. Or I go out for a coffee with girlfriends and doll myself up- do my hair, makeup, put on an outfit that isn't covered in milk vomit, food etc that makes me feel sexy and makes me feel a bit more like an individual woman who has a man that finds her completely desirable waiting back at home for her. Hubby also might make appreciative comments such as 'you are such an amazing woman You do so much for our family, I am so thankful you are my wife and the mother of my child. You are even more beautiful than when we first met etc.

If he does that he is pretty much guaranteed to get some but I also do the following to help as well:

I eat maca powder, ginger and raw cacao
I love the essential oil ylang ylang - so burning it or using it in a massage works for me, but other scents like rose etc might be appealing to you
in terms of crystals, RED TIGERS EYE is meant to be really good for libido.
I think about all of the things I love about my partner and remember that I'm not guaranteed another tomorrow with him (some people might think that thinking you/they might die tomorrow is morbid, but for me it reinforces how precious life is and how much my loved ones mean to me)

if all else fails a sure fire way to reignite that spark is with a kiss. Back in the beginning of our relationship, every parting or goodbye was followed by an intense, passionate 'world is ending' kiss - rather than the quick peck with the baby on the hip he gets now
So when I want to get in the mood, when baby is asleep, I grab him and kiss him like there's no tomorrow, and pretty soon that kiss turns into a makeout and that turns into....but yeah, every now and then kiss them like you mean it and see where it goes, sometimes a makeout session is fantastic all on its own

But otherwise don't dwell so much on the decrease in your libido, we have gone through a big transition and our hormones could still be out of whack. Just because it isn't what it used to be right now, doesn't mean it won't increase again naturally

apart from that - goodluck!

[foreva*your*mummy]

CC11 I could have written this myself. although you seemed to have it much more planned then I do lol.
I asked my DF to do the vacuming while I made muffins before a buisness meeting at home the other day and I said to him " see this is what is going to get you more sex! helping me so I am not so exausted" the joke of it all is we are sustaining from sex for 2 weeks to gender sway TTC hahahahaha so he couldnt have sex anyway ( im sure he has mentally stored that as and IOU lol)

I think what everyone has said it great, I honestly think that men just need it more than women.