Being mother to a premmie.

[Razzberry]

I am so sorry people are making you feel this way. You have both been through so much these past months and it is the last thing you need. Please don't feel guilty. FWIW my DD is not premmie but had/has severe reflux and my friends dd has an umbilical hernia and she wasn't premmie either.

It is horrible to feel judged

[blessedatlast]

Hun I get that too, Jett is tiny!! He'll be 6 months old next week and weighs 4.3kgs! So technically underweight for his adjusted age too..It's not always easy, but when you tell the story say it with a smile, tell them she's your miracle baby and how blessed you are to have her in your arms.. That's what I do..

Also I feel better saying 'adjusted' age rather than 'corrected' If your correcting something it means it was wrong. My baby is not wrong he was just early.. I got this analogy from a wise friend who had 27week twins.. I never say 'corrected age'

[mrscricket]

Oh LysnDan . Please never ever feel ashamed. Tell people whatever you have to, but never feel ashamed. My twins have just turned one and have just reached the 7kg mark. People are forever commenting they are tiny. On the weekend, we took them for their 12 month needles and the nurse walked in and said "Oh no! I was told it was 12 month, not 6 month! I'll have to get new needles out'. We said "No, no it is 12 months' and she said "Are you sure?'. She apologised straight away for being insensitive but people really do say the stupidest things. For a while I got the shopping home delivered so I didn't have to put up with people. Now, I just smile and either nod, or say "I know! It's lovely they are so little. They are like my babies for much longer'.
As for the reflux, my DS had very bad reflux and he was born almost at full term. My DH developed a hernia soon after birth. None of it is your fault.
Please don't let the comments of stupid people that you will probably never see again hurt you. You have your lovely little girl and that is all that matters xx