When my first premmie was born I had already been in hospital 2 weeks and was several hours away from home which meant I lived at the hospital until he was discharged. The best gifts were things like snacks, fresh fruit and a good hand cream. As he was my first and I hadn't got to buy any clothes I actually really enjoyed doing that myself, my mum came down one day towards the end of his NICU stay and took me out shopping for the day and we bought clothes, stroller, cot, etc then. However as they already have children things will be different for them obviously. I really like the idea of a care package, one thing I really wish I had done was kept a diary with all his milestones, setbacks, my feelings, etc.

Hope that helps!