My SIL's sister had a baby boy at 27 weeks last night. I know her obviously but not super well. Was planning on sending a little present and card when bub was born.
I asked Dh if we should send a card to them tomorrow. He said maybe we shuold wait and see how things go..... I said even if things don't go weel they still had a baby so I think a congrats on your baby boy card would be ok??
what do you mums of premmies think? For now bub is doing well.. he weighed 856 grams I think and 37cm long and last I heard he was breathing on his own (would that be right) and is active..
They don't live in the same town as us so we can't do much else for them.. but would a card be ok? or should we wait a few days in case things don't go well meaning would a card like that upset them....
A card would be wonderful.. They still HAD A BABY!! and this deserves to be acknowledged.. If you would normally have got them a gift, still get them 1 now.. Just maybe a blanket instead of clothes.. Babies at 27wks have a good chance of survival, but if something does go wrong, the parents will treasure and cards and gifts received.. The baby maybe breathing on his own most likely with CPAP (Continuous positive airway pressure I think it stands for)
I think a card would be great. The few people that knew I was pregnant avoided me like the plague when he was born I wish someone had of thought a card would be nice for us
Thats why I am so greatful, I got 12 days with my babies.. I did get lots of cards and gifts.. I must admit though, I got more symapthy cards when they died, than I did cards when they were born
I was a 26 weeker (and about that weight too!) in the 80s and these days there is a very good chance. Esp if he is breathing well on his own.
Like above, I didn't get anything when P was born (okay she wasn't prem so it probably wasn't nessecary anyway), but if I were a Mum of a premmie I'd probably be feeling very alone - like I know my Mum did with me - and any support, even in a card, would be great.
I would keep to it a card with a lovely message, and perhaps a journal/diary that they can write down their journey, coming home with bunches of flowers and ballons and the like with no baby at home with you is really hard..... especially seeing them each day on returning from the hospital ...... and perhaps do more as time goes on.
Last edited by *Beema*; October 29th, 2010 at 09:13 PM.
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If you would normally have got them a gift, still get them 1 now.. Just maybe a blanket instead of clothes.. Babies at 27wks have a good chance of survival, but if something does go wrong, the parents will treasure and cards and gifts received.. The baby maybe breathing on his own most likely with CPAP (Continuous positive airway pressure I think it stands for)
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