Firstly Congratulations TK,
First time mummy and you got an early arrival kinda makes them special in their own right . I too had my DD due to PE complications @ 31+3. You will find (in no way am I defending the nurse) that the nurses you will encounter over your journey will vary from the downright nasty to the extremely sweet and totally understanding. I had a nurse similar to that and told her that whilst yes it was her JOB to enforce the hospitals policies and so on- I was DD's mother and the buck stopped with me. I wanted to know everything that was going on. Crying is good and I was always encouraged to do so, it is an emotional rollercoaster you have just been thrust upon. I was encouraged to ask as many questions that I could think of. So I encourage you to do the same. Knowledge is more power to you hun it will help you understand what lies ahead for you and you family.
Is your DD in a humidicrib or an open cot? If in an open cot, I would be asking why cant I hold my DD afterall isnt bonding the most crucial thing paticular with a preemie, Kangaroo cuddles (skin on skin cuddles-usually bub will be rested on your naked chest under your top with blankets on top) are supposed to be most beneficial for them as they can hear mummy's heartbeat and studies have shown that they are more settled and their vitals stabilise when close to the mummy. When is a preemie baby awake?? Excuse me but very rarely!! Like you I experienced the maternity ward blues. Being there without a baby is so so hard. So I adopted the theory- "my baby cant come to me but I can move heaven and earth to go to her". You have every right to be there for you DD's tube feeds. I was the only mother in our SCN that was. Even the overnight ones.
I hope you have a lovely gentle rollercoaster with Caitlin.
Tiff xox
Last edited by tiffanny; August 11th, 2009 at 11:56 AM.
. I too had my DD due to PE complications @ 31+3. You will find (in no way am I defending the nurse) that the nurses you will encounter over your journey will vary from the downright nasty to the extremely sweet and totally understanding. I had a nurse similar to that and told her that whilst yes it was her JOB to enforce the hospitals policies and so on- I was DD's mother and the buck stopped with me. I wanted to know everything that was going on. Crying is good and I was always encouraged to do so, it is an emotional rollercoaster you have just been thrust upon. I was encouraged to ask as many questions that I could think of. So I encourage you to do the same. Knowledge is more power to you hun it will help you understand what lies ahead for you and you family.
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