big items that are good but not essential - babny bouncer (use ours daily - it vibrates and keeps her content/helps her to resettle when she stirs), a swing - i would be lost without ours - i am "single" a lot of the time as DH works away - gives me time to eat without holding DD. ummmm, if you;r interested in usung a baby carrier (sling/hugabub/ergo) they're exxy

as for other people presents - singlets/bibs/socks/sleepsuits - not all in nb sizes. you'll use them daily. large muslin wraps (we use them everynight for DD), flanellette wraps (not too many though - looks like a summer baby). or simply say "we have x,y,z - everything else we need"

if you intend to use cloth nappies over disposables, let people know in advance just in case they decide to buy nappy stuff (cos you need diff creams etc)

HTH's