for me...i feel the initial shock and saddness, and obviously feel like ****...

but when i start thinking about it from a pagan point of veiw, i start thinking about the cycles, the energies, and feel stronger from it. No energy can be destroyed...just refocused elsewhere, so for me someone isnt 'gone' they are just in a different place, and we give back what we take from the great mother, and it is all part of the cycle.

I dont feel that someone is dead and its forever and i will never see them again....i feel i will, i feel they just need to travel down a different path for a while that i cant get on...but oneday our roads will meet again.

thinking like this fills me with peace, dont get me wrong, i still feel sad and still miss them, and wish that it wouldnt happen right now, but at a different time, but that is something i have no control over, and for me, if i have no control it is pointless to dwell on it.