thread: Parenting After Miscarriage or Loss - February 2010

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  1. #1
    BellyBelly Member

    Apr 2007
    Hobart
    416

    Hi girls,

    Lisa - those sharp little twitches are totally normal, bubs is getting bigger and bouncing off your pelvic floor - I found they even hurt at times, like electric shocks - could get worse before it gets better, but it shouldn't be painful iykwim. Congrats to your SIL, I pray they have a healthy happy babe.

    Hi to everyone - not feeling that chatty, as mentioned b4 my big girl started high school today - she went fine, no problems, it's me thats really feeling it, just feel flat and cheated tbh - pondering why things are such smooth sailing for some, but for others, well we know only too well...............sigh sigh..... be back later when the black dog is gone...

    Lee xo

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    Oct 2005
    A Nestle Free Zone... What about YOU?
    5,374

    Oh Lee big big cuddles darling woman.

    I truly do understand but for different reasons... Just to qualify... My ex husband had "episodes" where he just walked out. The first time was when my DD14 was 4 months old... He was gone a year. So her first Christmas, First Birthday, First Easter etc etc was a sad affair... He walked out when she was 3 again for over a year. So again the first preschool etc etc... I find things really really tough when I look back at her life & how hard she has done it. Now she is dealing with the permanent breakdown of her family as she knew it. At least for my other kids they have no other "bad" memories except the recent ones. (which of course is hideous ) However, with Ruby I feel so guilty and responsible that her life has been so difficult.

    Why does stuff happen... Well of course none of us know definitely do we! However, I believe that we all come in with a "contract" - lessons that we elect to learn... We are given those to help us to grow and develop to our best potential. Through the sadness of loss we learn to appreciate life, empathy... We learn to let go - even when it's forced on us. Through my other personal struggles I have learned other things. I have learn resilience. I've learned that you never know what's going on behind someone's smile... Nor their nastiness. We are all struggling & battling.

    You Lee are an amazing & beautiful Being! I am sure your struggles have grown you to be so amazing. Your daughter chose you as her mother because you are her strength... I am so sorry that you are feeling like you are - I wish I could give you a cuddle. I am sure her Daddy is watching his little girl & I am sure he is as proud as punch.

    Big cuddles again gorgeous...