Parenting After Miscarriage or Loss - February 2010

**Laney** · February 5th, 2010, 07:08 AM

Hi Ladies,

I really don't know what to say to everyone. I am just going to send out one big

BFN today, still no AF but I think she is on her way. I hope that I am not going to be one of the few women that have issues getting pregnant after a c-section. I guess my body just needs a little more time.

**Janie** · February 5th, 2010, 08:18 AM

Laney,

Spring, is there any other sort??????

Willow, please do not apologise, that's what we're all here for! We all know how tough it can be with no sleep, and not all of us have three kids!!!! Give me a few months and I'll be saying all the same things LOL. Pleasant, schmeasant, who has it in them to be nice when they've had no sleep?????

You just hang in there, and know that it will get better

Freya, you are going to be great hun! Yes you might be a dead man walking some days, but you can do it! You got in, which is such a massive hurdle to start with!!! I know you can cope with all of the rest...........it will be tough at times, but so worth it

Mako, good luck today, I'll be thinking of you, and looking forward to reading your update!

Bek, it's so lovely to see you, you have plenty to contribute! Please keep hanging around......

Lisa, I hear you on the sleep! Hope you can get some rest in at some stage, take it easy hun. Thank you so much for your offer, that's very lovely of you, but I'll let you just rest, relax and enjoy these last weeks of your pg

Have a lovely day guys! Will pop back tonight with a positive update from our CTG!

**butterfly_warrior** · February 5th, 2010, 08:35 AM

Willow, I've had a similar warning before and it does seriously suck - especially when it's one of your friends and you know they won't be bothered... but rules are rules. *sigh*

Michelle, thinking of you today.

I think Sam's getting sick. Either that or teething. Broke my heart to leave him at daycare today, but I'm told he settled later on. He's just refusing food and is clingy and he CRIED when I left. Hoping he goes ok through the day and isn't getting sick.

Anyway, at work and working... so I'd best go. Just desperately wanted to pop in and check on things... and show off my spunky, new back to work avatar.

BW

**Michelle71** · February 5th, 2010, 09:00 AM

Just a quick one. Stabbing over. Not the most pleasant of experiences but done. Now we wait. I need a good cry and a snooze to release all of this pent up stress.

Thank you for the messages of support and the SMS's this morning. It means so much to both of us. I just wish DH had a group like you. BBL. 4 sleeps to preliminary results .......

**JCE0810** · February 5th, 2010, 09:01 AM

Michelle: thinking of you today

i hope you managed some sleep last night

Mako: all the best for your appt

and i hope hope your DH is ok, the kidney situation sounds scary

BW: LOVE your new avatar!, hope Sam isnt getting sick

Willow: big

Laney: sending you some

too

Janie: goodluck for your CTG's i hope to hear positive news later today/tonight

Freya: i'm sure you'll find a balance between everything

Bun: i hope your days get better

Bek: YAY on being RAK'd

Lisa: i hope you got some rest

Spring: i've sent you a PM

Sorry if i missed anyone

Now AFM:
Well my dr finally rang at 10.17am, i'm so grateful to the results lady for getting him to look at it urgently this morning i could kiss her, i think she could hear the anxiety in my voice both times i spoke to her.

Anyway he said it would appear that i'm not as far along as we both thought i was which would explain why the yolk sac is so small and why there was no fetal pole. At this point in time he isnt concerned but wants me to have a blood test today and next Friday he's leaving the forms at the front desk, also he's leaving an ultrasound form for me as well that i'm to have in 7-10days times.

He said so far things seem on track and its just too early to pick up and he wants to check my HCG levels to see whether they are are rising or falling which we all know its good if they are rising because it means we're headed in the right direction BUT if they are falling.....................then you know what that means

Thankyou for the continued support at this time and for thinking positive when i wasnt sure i could, i appreciate everyones kind words &

's

**Freya** · February 5th, 2010, 09:10 AM

Glad the procedure went well and is over for you Michelle; now to just concentrate on getting through the next 4 days. Im here if you need me; only a short drive away!

Thanks for the advie Spring (I did not know you were a lawyer though!) TBH its not even really coping with the Uni work Im worried about because I truly find anything medical utterly fascinating, its the rest (Dh, kids, house et al) thats stressing me out. I already dont get enough sleep or enough time to myself without having to fit study in somewhere. I know if I get distracted thatll be the end of me.

Although now Im wondering why Im even bothering to study when apparently there is a shortage of jobs for nurses, esp new grads

**Janie** · February 5th, 2010, 09:11 AM

Counting down with you Michelle......

**nicjay** · February 5th, 2010, 09:25 AM

Bonham -

Glad you had an encouraging call from your dr, that all sounds really positive! Praying for a lovely rising HCG for you.

Michelle -

thinking of you over the next 4 days, so sorry you have to wait that long.

Laney - Sorry about the BFN

Janie - GL for your CTG today! I got an I Phone last year and I love it! Would like the new one but DH has said NO LOL Do you have Wi Fi internet at home at all? If so you do you can use the phone as a lappy - well almost, small screen is a bit of a PITA. But there is this new forum app I found out about today, looks like it makes browsing here and posting easier on the phone. Thinking about getting it!

Willow - I know how you feel - another bad nights sleep here too. We've just had a swimming lesson so hoping that has tired her out, she's asleep now....And I got a warning too, I would never intentionally leave my ticker on either but I know how easy it is to forget especially when you are tired

Mako - GL for today

Bun - Happy birthday to DD for tomorrow!

Inanna - I wanted to reply to your post about Immy last night but didn't have enough time.....we are in a similar boat with our DD1 too unfortunately. She has a deletion on chromosome 2 - only 6 other people known to have it in the world

But it would appear that she is not too badly affected - although we don't really know what it has caused and what it hasn't KWIM? Anyway, she has slightly delayed gross motor skills, very very lax ligaments (it is freaky the positions she can get her legs into!), low muscle tone and a slight sensory processing disorder. She also had Congenital Hip Dysplasia as a bub, 12 weeks in a Pavlik harness for that. Anyway we found out about the disorder when we took her to a paed because her preschool was concerned about the low muscle tone. He did an array CGH as part of the investigations - very thorough he was - which came back abnormal. More testing and lots of worrying later we had an answer, but have had no genetic counselling as yet - I'm sure they are going to put us into the too hard basket

cause of its rarity. So I don't really know what I'm trying to say

but I do understand your concerns. Our big one is that because this disorder is not well known that something could pop up at anytime that could be a major problem for her KWIM? We are doing occupational therapy with her and she has orthotics now too to improve her core stability and gross motor skills. Encouragingly she has made some good improvements. Will be praying that Immy does the same!

Big hi and hugs to everyone else!

**Sequoia** · February 5th, 2010, 10:08 AM

Hi all, I'm just lurking, it's hard to keep up with everyone's news but I just wanted to let Michelle know I am thinking of her. I think the waiting is worse than the amnio itself. We had the Australia Day PH thrown in as well, so the weekend is an extra day! Boo. Thinking of you hun,

Deb - good luck with your search for answers for Immy, have you contacted the support group yet?

Bonham - argh, the waiting is the worst in early pregancy isn't it?! I hope your HCG rises nicely and your next scan goes well.

Bun - I enjoy reading your posts about life with 2. I'm already thinking how I can be organised next time. I'll get a cleaner (the lady who does our store) for a few months and lots of frozen meals should make things a bit easier. I just happen to be due during DH's most busy time with work (farming community) so it should be verrrrry interesting!

Hi to everyone else.

AFM - I fell over in a carpark last Sunday and have possibly split my patella. Has anyone had an Xray whilst pregnant? I'm not keen at all.

**Michelle71** · February 5th, 2010, 10:35 AM

Sequoia - they will shield your tummy for the xray. The dose of radiation is really very small and so are the risks for bubs - particularly at this stage of your pregnancy.

Freya - pfffttttt!!! There are PLENTY of nursing jobs. You don't need to do a new grad program. I didn't and it didn't kill me

There are plenty of options available to you beyond a new grad program and they are soooooooo short of staff you will be able to find a job easily. I can give you a few sneaky tips on how to get there too

Home trying to rest. Thankfully my best friend is a gem and is staying here because DH is off to work soon. Anomaly scan booked for the 25th which is pre-emptive by my OB but he wants to see me then so I am hoping

All measurements are good and right on the midline so I just have to hope and pray it is all good.

BBL when my head can think for my than 5 seconds *mwah*

**Willow** · February 5th, 2010, 12:01 PM

Michelle - Glad to hear it went OK and you're at home resting

Happy to report my shopping expedition was somewhat successful. I have something to wear now (albeit not as awesome as I would have liked) and I was in and out so quickly (hit the jackpot at the first shop I went in to) that the boys didn't have time to give me grief. Came home and put them both to bed and have just got them both up. Why can't every day be smooth sailing like this?!

I forgot to mention earlier that my bestie is flying in tomorrow morning and we have D's christening on Sunday so I probably won't be around until Monday or Tuesday.

Mako - Make sure you txt me in case I don't get a chance to pop back in here!

**Spring Angel** · February 5th, 2010, 12:25 PM

Michelle: So glad the Amnio is over. I was quite surprised when I had mine how quickly they were in and out. I hope that the wait for results is a short one. Here for you (and DH) if you need anything.

Willow: Yay, I always love a good shopping trip.

Sequoia: I don't even know where the patella is but it sounds mighty painful. I hope you are ok hun

Bonham: Well hun that all sounds positive. I hope you have out of this world HCG results that continue to rise. Hey and thanks for the PM

Laney: Sorry about the BFN. What CD are you? Is it possible that your HCG hasn't risen enough to show a BFP?

Janie: I know I'm daft but I don't get it

Hope you have a fantastic CTG today.

Meg: You are a pretty special lady for being so open and sharing the story of your gorgeous DD with Deb. I think that was a very generous thing to do.

Freya: I hope you can fit in study within all the other chaos. Is there some sort of support group at the uni for parents? They might have some tips for coping? Ring the Admin or Student Union they might be able to point you in the right direction.

BW: I hope Sam is feeling better soon. It's hard leaving them when they are not 100%.

Spring xx

**kellym** · February 5th, 2010, 12:30 PM

Sorry, just a quick one from me... I woke up with a damn migraine again so not feeling too good.

Michelle - Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you and am glad that it's over.. althought the next 4 days of waiting will definitely be even worse. Big hugs and know that we're all here for you. I'm praying that the results will be ok. Take care and try to rest up!

Jo - I'm so glad you finally got to talk to your dr and am praying everything is going to be ok.

Mako - Hope you're appointment went well too (I'm assuming by the time you read this you will have been)!! Will be interested to hear what your ob says. Hugs.

Sorry for the lack of personals, not feeling too good and need to make the most of the 'quite time' that I have while DH is asleep. Think I might sleep myself. We're off to Geelong tomorrow for the Half Ironman.. so that will be nice. I'll try and pop in while we're away though but otherwise, we're back Monday!

Take care.

Kel xxx

**Lee** · February 5th, 2010, 12:57 PM

Hi lovelies,

I think we are all getting answers and things are picking up in here, well they had better be the right answers I say!!

Michelle - hurdle number one over, now to wait, and keep nicely diverted with your little people in the meantime, try to keep your feet up hon xo

Laney - bummer about the BFN, it will happen hon, you have not had problems falling before, it will happen soon xo

Spring - ha ha I hear you say 2 are easier than 1 - are you crazy lol!!! Try 4, I'm a sucker though!!

Jo - hoping and praying your bub keeps growing xo

Kelly - Luke is a cutie in your ticker !

Freya - call me mad too, but it's usually a case of the more you take on, the more you can do - sometimes I just long to be BORED, can't see it for another 20 odd years though! I reckon you are the kind of woman who can turn her mind and passions to making anything possible!

Willow - unreal you found an outfit - I hate it when you have to go into 15 shops and still have not found 'the one' - I admire you tackling clothes shopping with kids! I took my 2 little ones to Woolies this morning, and got through the check out dignity intact, so pretty chuffed too lol !

Deb - how's the info sinking in hon? How are your bigger ones enjoying being back at school? How's your move looking!

Sequoia - a broken patella wouldn't tickle - I'm studying massage and it's usually a no-go zone, good luck hon!

Janie - look forward to reading your good CTG news, hopefully your bub has had a healthy growth spurt too xo

Jayne - how are you doing way over there in the West??

Hi to everyone else!

Changed my ticker so you can see the mini-man (current nick-name lol) goddam he's cute, but I'm just a tiny bit biased there........... all okay here, just trying to remember where I left the motivation for chores????? Perhaps I threw it out with the rubbish this morning

Lee xo

**Janie** · February 5th, 2010, 02:06 PM

All good, nice and quick today

. Bbl.....

**mako** · February 5th, 2010, 03:06 PM

Great to hear you're home and resting Michelle

I hope the next 4 days pass as quickly as possible for you and your DH.

Well my Ob was over 2 hours behind and of course I didn't bother to phone ahead. The only time I've never called

Luckily I left DS with MIL for the day.
Anyway she was very very upset and angry that I hadn't been to see her earlier or that the hospital didn't bother to call her when I was there. There had been a bit of a communication clitch as far as her receptionist goes too and she wasn't happy to say the least. Anyway I've had more b/t done this afternoon but won't get the results of some of those for about 3 weeks or so. She has told me to start taking Metformin again(but I'm waiting until I see DR S Thursday). As for the Clexane she's not too sure about that just yet as she said it depends on how my results come back as it can sometimes cause more bleeding and other issues and doesn't want to risk anything if we don't have to.
So I go back in April to see her again but at this stage I don't have any answers at this stage.

BBL..have a whingy child climbing all over me and we need to get ready as we are going out for FIL's birthday.