Mako - Had a feeling this was going to happen My DH was the same, but I just steamed along anyway because I knew in my gut it was the right thing to do. It wasn't until Dr S did my second lap and we realised how bad things were that he came around and admitted I was right. I'm not saying ignore his feelings, I'm just saying don't ignore your own.
Little story...I have a close friend who was in a very similar situation to you about 2 years ago. She has an auto immune disorder. She had one DD with IVF but had been trying for about 18 months for #2. Failure, after failure after failure. It was awful. Her ob and FS couldn't work out why it wasn't happening. She'd almost make it through the tww and then a day or two before her blood test she'd start bleeding. In the end her FS pretty much told her she was out of answers and basically gave up on her. She told her 'sometimes no matter how much we try this just isn't meant to be' Before her last cycle with this Dr, a friend (who was also a patient of Dr S') and I tried to gently persuade her to go and see Dr S. Her husband totally flipped out. He wanted to continue with their current specialist, he wanted the answers to be easy, you know? Let's just keep doing what we're doing and it will work eventually. So they did another cycle. Another BFN. And this one nearly killed her, it was their last frozen embryo so they were up for another stim cycle.
So off they went to Dr S. He did a whole heap of tests including his biopsy for 'natural killer cells' and low and behold her results were off the charts. They did one cycle with Dr S following his protocol and she fell prg. She now has a beautiful little boy
She has told us over and over that she wished she'd gone to him sooner.
So, I guess what I'm saying is in my opinion babe, when something's not working anymore you try something new
Maybe try a fishing analogy with him...tell him it's time for a new rod!! Or he needs to try some soft plastics instead of live bait!
I'm with your GP, I am p*ssed with your ob even if you aren't! LOL. I just don't feel like she's giving you the time and care you need
BBL...I am quickly understanding why people hate having renos done!!
Last edited by Willow; January 12th, 2010 at 07:02 AM.
My DH was the same, but I just steamed along anyway because I knew in my gut it was the right thing to do. It wasn't until Dr S did my second lap and we realised how bad things were that he came around and admitted I was right. I'm not saying ignore his feelings, I'm just saying don't ignore your own.
Before her last cycle with this Dr, a friend (who was also a patient of Dr S') and I tried to gently persuade her to go and see Dr S. Her husband totally flipped out. He wanted to continue with their current specialist, he wanted the answers to be easy, you know? Let's just keep doing what we're doing and it will work eventually. So they did another cycle. Another BFN. And this one nearly killed her, it was their last frozen embryo so they were up for another stim cycle.
Or he needs to try some soft plastics instead of live bait!
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