thread: Parenting after Miscarriage or loss ~ July 2010

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  1. #1
    Registered User

    Sep 2006
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    Michelle big big for you hun. I hope you have a nice little break away this week

    Freya How are you doing? Have you thought any more about further testing etc?

    Willow WOOHOO so you're back then?? I miss you being around here even though we talk on FB and IRL etc..its just not the same as seeing you around here kwim?

    Jayne Sounds like everything is going well in China Keep letting us know what you're up to and how the girls are doing. I hope the girls are having a great day at school again today

    We are not too bad..Just organising things for Sage's party on Saturday and have been stressing out trying to arrange back up plans in case it rains but have just decided to take some tarps and poles etc and will put them up if it does happen to rain..anyway what kid doesn't like playing in the rain lol..I'm surprised how sad I've been feeling about him actually turning 3 I thought I'd be ok with that but it seems like I'm not doing that well. I know that sounds silly and I'm happy that he's growing into a big boy but I don't know..
    Maybe its all the other emotions running around my head atm too..waiting for the wicked witch to show up any day isn't really helping nor is the fact that I'm approaching yet another EDD next week and not preg again..I don't know I think I should be used to all that by now but it still kind of creeps up on me.
    Anyway I should get going and get some more presents wrapped while the little one is sleeping

    Hi to Lisa, Kelly,Janie,Deb,Lee,Pash,Bun,Bek,Spring,and anyone else I have missed. I hope everyone is ok

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Jan 2006
    Qingdao, China
    1,196

    Lol, Mako - stressing about birthday parties is what happens to me as well. I have no idea why I get soooooooo obsessed with thinking that little kids notice tiny little things. I know exactly the stress feeling. Already I'm panicking about Jessica's birthday. She wasn't going to have a party, but given that there are only 6 in her school class, I'm thinking I could pull it off........... Best of luck with Saturday, I hope everything goes beautifully!!! What special presents is the big boy getting? Oh sweetheart, I can completely understand why you are feeling so sad. I feel so sad FOR you..........

    Well, it's been fun here today for us. The kids are on holidays for 2 days from school & there is a MASSIVE mall right next door which I find inside has an ice skating rink. So I took the kids ice skating today & because it's all brand new, there was only 2 others on the ice, we basically had it all to ourselves. PLUS there was a 'normal' toilet there which is such a big thing for us! bahahhaha. We don't go out long enough to warrant using ANY toilets because they are all the squatting variety, so to find a 'normal' toilet just about sent me over the edge with happiness!!!

    After that we had Maccas, which is where I met an American man with his 2 kids who said there are lots of Australians in his apartment complex on the SAME ROAD as me! Woooooooooooooooot!!!! (Small things I know!)

    Then I found a really cute kids clothing store & spent a bomb in there but it's the first big spree I have been on & the girls are going to look sooooooooooooooooooo cute in their new styles!

    Wooooot for me!!!

    Love Jayne x

  3. #3
    BellyBelly Member

    Aug 2006
    Melbourne
    843

    Jayne - It's sooo fantastic reading about your new adventure!! Sounds like you're having a great time.. good on you!! How do the girls like school and the move in general? Are they coping with it all ok? Sounds like they might be!! Make sure you keep the updates coming, they're fab!!


    Mako - Enjoy Sage's birthday this weekend.. I'm praying it doesn't rain but as you have said.. what kid doesn't like playing in the rain - LOL. I'm sure it will be wonderful no matter what!! They just grow up way too fast hey? It's so scary. I hate that you're having to face another yet another EDD... sending you some massive hugs hun, it's been such a tough year for you and I wish I could make it all better.

    Michelle - Hugs babe.. I'm still thinking of you ALL the time!! And I just love what Jayne wrote about your 'anniversary'.. couldn't have been said any better, she's certainly got a way with words!! Love it and hope you're doing ok (like that's even possible).

    Willow - Hows Bubba D going? Poor little poppet.. it's just not fair.

    Freya - I'm thinking of you all the time atm too hun... I hope you're doing ok. Have you thought any more about getting some testing done?

    Big hello's to everyone else.

    AFM - All good in our little world (appart from all the general challenges at this late stage of pregnancy - LOL)!! I'm getting VERY excited now about meeting our new little bub but for some reason get very nervous around this time too... just as the big day gets closer and all... it's been such a long time coming for us and the last couple of weeks are almost the worst.. I have to keep thinking all the positive thoughts (I have no reason not to but ykwim). I just can't wait to hold this little one in my arms.. after all the kicking it's been doing lately.. I'll need to have a good talking to it too - LOL. I can't believe I'll only be pregnant for just under 3 weeks and then that's it for us... forever!! Really need to keep reminding myself of that and try to enjoy it as much as possible. It's hard though, when everything hurts so much and I can't sleep - LOL. Anyway enough of that, I've been trying not to post too much as I don't want to upset anyone... but still feel the need to share a little of what I'm gonig through - hope that's ok with everyone!

    Kel xxx

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Jan 2006
    Qingdao, China
    1,196

    Awwww Kelly I'm sure that you're not upsetting anybody in sharing your excitement and joy. It's a wonderful experience for you & we all know only too well how precious it is to have a little person growing inside us. I'm sooooooooooooooo excited for you. I was only just looking at my calendar this morning thinking 11 Nov is getting very close!!! I actually think the kids have adjusted really, really, really well, Jessica has joined her classroom without a moment's hesitation. To the point she won't let me go through the door of the class anymore, she tells me now she is grown up enough to have a big desk, you just kiss your kids goodbye at the door She has made lovely friends with all the kids in the class & it's surprised me a lot, but her 'best friend' in class is actually a boy. I never thought I would see the day!!! Alan is away atm & that hasn't happened without me expressing my disgust at it being his second business trip when we have only been here 2 weeks. I'm not at all amused. I find Alan finds it a bit tiring having the kids around him all the time, but I have to think it has been 3 years since he has lived with them full-time, but I don't make any other allowances to it either. I have this real 'thing' that they are MY kids, where I have to start letting him be the dad, I have to realise I am the mum now, not the mum AND the dad, KWIM?

    Willow - What's happening with Little D? I don't have Fb to stalk & you need to keep me in the loop!!!

    Lazy day here, did a bit of grocery shopping, might stroll down for an icecream later. Claudia is asleep on the couch, so Jess & I are just chilling.

    xx

  5. #5
    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2006
    Perth
    766

    Hi guys. Sorry it has been FOREVER since I have been in here, time just seems to be slipping away at the moment! We are waiting on all the details for our move back to Perth so have been very busy getting the house ready to sell and there has been a bit to do before it goes on the market. I am also trying to find a rental to live in once we are in Perth as we have tenants in our house for a few more months. We are contemplating buying another place in Perth and selling the place we have there, but it is just soooo expensive I don't see how that is going to happen! I have my parents staying for the next week too which will be nice, but it has been a very busy time of late!

    Again, it was so very lovely to meet those of you who made it to Melbourne. Since I will be the only Perth person soon I suppose it will be unlikely that there will ever be a Perth meet up so I am disappointed that I may not get to meet any of you again! Melb girls, I will make sure we catch up again before we leave

    jayne - It is so good to hear you sounding so happy in China. That must have been a huuuuge move, especially with Jess being so sick right before the move and I think you have handled it so well. I was a complete mess before our move over here and I was staying in the same country! I am glad to hear that the girls have adjusted so well and are loving school - that must be a huge relief for you. And the shopping sounds amazing! How are you finding it there? I would also be pretty peeved with Alan having gone away for work twice when the whole reason for moving there was so that you wouldn't be apart so often. And I suppose it must be strange for both of you being there all the time after so many years. I hope you get into a groove soon and that the work trips ease up!

    Mako - happy birthday Sage! I hope he has had a lovely day and that the weather has held out for his party. How are you going? Have you made an appointment with the specialist you have decided to see?

    freya - how are you feeling sweetie? Have you decided to go ahead with the testing? I also found that no one wanted to treat me until I had suffered three miscarriages in a row, even though I had gone through two miscarriages and had no children, and in my mind that was enough to warrant testing. I ended up seeing a private specialist who would do the testing I wanted if I was prepared to pay for it, regardless of how many losses I had suffered. Good luck hun. How are the boys?

    Spring - how is O's thumb? That looked sooo painful, I would have been screaming for days if it had happened to me!

    Michelle - how are you going luv? I also love what jayne said - so beautiful.

    kelly - of course it is ok to post how you are feeling! We all know how trying those last few weeks are. You are doing great hun and you are nearly there now! Any thoughts on what you are having? I am still convinced it is a girl. And do you have names sorted?

    willow - good to see you in here! How is D going now? And I see that you are moving - are you excited? Looks like both you and I are going to be pretty busy over the next few weeks!

    Hi to everyone else. Gotta go - Josh is teething and is being an absolute nightmare ATM!! Will BBL. I hope you are all having a lovely weekend. And Kelly - hang in there while your DH is away!!

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Jan 2006
    Qingdao, China
    1,196

    Awwwwww Bun, you're going home to Perth definitely!!! I know of a house that's sitting vacant,............... In lovely Waikiki. LOL Are you so excited to be back with your family or did you really get into the groove in Melbs? You haven't been over there for that long either have you? Geepers, time is flying if Josh is teething!! Far out, that must make you sad. Yeah, I'm quite mad about Alan's second business trip & he knows it, he is home tonight. Both trips have only been 2 nights each, but still, I'm in a foreign country for goodness sake & I moved here for HIM! I am loving the shopping, but none of it is market shopping (I think we live in Posh-ville), there is Gucci, Cartier, Givenchy & Armani across the road............... I can't even bring myself to enter the shops & wail at how I can't afford them. I won't put myself through that torture. I have found an ok priced shop called Zara where they do men, womens & kids & I have bought the kids a few things from there & I plan on having a shop there for myself when they are at school on monday. There is a new harbour opened up called Darling Harbour (funnily enough) & we had a walk around there today. It's part of the Qingdao Olympic Sailing Centre, where they held the sailing for 2008 Beijing Olympics, it's not an international venue & there is heaps of construction, so it's going to be exciting for us. Also, there is a Tepanyaki Restaurant there today which I JUST LOVE Tepanyaki. It's one of those restaurants where you are seated around the chef & he cooks everything literally right before your eyes & serves it directly onto your plate. I have already told Alan we are going there tomorrow. See, listen to me, freaking FOOD!!! I can't get enough of it. I'm goign to end up needing a wide load seat coming home for Christmas. I was supposed to get skinny here, not even more fat. It's depressing!!! Listen to me babble, can you tell I'm deprived of speaking to people who can speak English!!!

    Spring - What's happened to Ollie's thumb?

    Willow - Fill me in on Little D, please!!!

    Mako - Wishing Sage the happiest of birthday parties today, I hope the rain held off & that he had a smashing time in the park with his mates. I hope you're not too exhausted after it all.

    Love each & every one of you! xx

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Jan 2006
    Sydney
    2,212

    Hi girls Back from the IL's and I must say it was harder than I had considered it might be. First trip back since May and into the same town / house / room / bed was all a bit too much. For everyone. Mr O was a very clingy being most of the time and on the first night didn't want to go to bed and said "I want Daddy". Baby boy - you aren't the only one

    Kelly - please, please don't ever feel like you shouldn't post about the good things!!!! The whole purpose of this corner is the support we can give through the ups and the downs. If it is all downs it is rather depressing and I add enough of the sad stuff for everyone Not long to go now!!

    Mako - I am so sorry I couldn't be there to wish Sage a happy birthday in person. Soon though ........ I hope you had a lovely day and the sadness is quite understandable. Mr G is 4 months old and I look at him sadly quite often thinking about how quickly it is all going by and how he won't be a baby for too much longer and all of the other things that highlights.

    Jayne - skype me woman and I can fill you in on the gossip LOL

    2/3 of the little people were sleeping - now 2/3 are awake I may get to sleep some time this decade / century.