Parenting after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March/April 2010

[mako]

Spring we are all here to cheer you on hun. I still don't believe it when you say 25kgs still has you in your healthy weight range though. But anyway you know what is best for you and I'm going to support you to your goal
How are your boys doing? Is DH's back healing ok?

Deb Woohoo on your weight loss too. You must be feeling proud of yourself How is everything else going?

Jayne OMG look at your ticker hun. You are doing so so well too. Not long until you are on your holiday. I bet the girls are excited.
Sending a for your SIL too. I hope things work out for her.

Lee Sending you a too hun. I hope your health nurse can point you in the right direction to chat with someone to help you face the challenges you are facing on a daily basis. Oh and I had to giggle at your MIL's comments too. I'm sorry your visitors aren't helping out as much as you'd hoped.

Kelly I have absolutely everything crossed that all is ok at your scan on Wednesday.
How is L going with his TTing or have you given up for a bit?

Willow how is your Nan babe? I hope the sleep is slowly improving at your place.

Bek,Bun,Laney,Rach,Megsmum,Lisa,Janie,Michelle Sending you all a too. Hope everything is ok at all your houses.

AFM Feeling like utter total cr*p atm. I wasn't too bad the day after the D&C but since the bleeding increased it has been doing my head in and I'm finding it all very hard to cope with everything.I'm feeling like such a failure (sp). Our weekend away was cr*p too and wish I'd stayed home cos atleast I could have rested like I should be but anyway.

[kellym]

Oh mako.. sending you so many massive hugs. I know it's hard.. you sound exactly how I felt after the last one and it's just not fair. I wish I had something inspiring and insightful to say that would help even just the tinest little bit but just know that I'm thinking of you ALL the time and praying things start looking up for you soon. I hope the bleeding settles down, I think I've been lucky with my D&C's and haven't really had a lot of bleeding, only ever on the day of and day after, then it settled down and I just had lots of brown cm (sorry if tmi).

As for the TTing.. thanks for asking.. I've just been letting Luke determine what he wants to do and it's really up and down. Overall we've had lots of accidents but since I relaxed about it all, it's been much easier to deal with - LOL. Late last week he turned a big corner though (probably becuase I've been spending a lot more time at home).. and he's pretty much there now!!! The last four or five days have been accident free.. he's even telling me when he needs to go now and just last night he started telling us we weren't allowed in there with him!!!! Soooo funny. Problem is that he doesn't push his willy down enough and sometimes we get a big fountain of wee going everywhere!!!! But at least he's going and doesn't have a problem doing poo on the toilet either so I'm rapped!! It's wonderful. He gets distracted when we're out though and the other day did a poo in his undies at the park... but usually I still put pull ups on him (which is probably why he poo'd, coz he's normally got the pull ups on).. not ready to stop that yet but we'll get there!!

Must go and keep cleaning, have the MIL coming over tomorrow. Should be good.

Kel xxx

[JCE0810]

Hi Ladies, i have my internet back.

Mako: I'm so sorry for your loss

Not sure what else has been happening i've been trying to keep up on my Blackberry but it doesnt always show me everything that's said in the thread.

[~Jayne~]

SPRING _ I have just realised, that we must be the same starting weight cos I too needed to lose 25kg, but I'm still gobsmacked you need to lose 25kg! I honestly, honestly, honestly don't think you need to lose that amount - you won't be visible to the naked eye - but you know yourself better than anybody! Also, WTG on the ticker, you're setting yourself up for success in a really positive way - good on you. As per the Jenny Craig, if it's an extravagance that is going to help make a healthier you, then I don't see how you can put a monetary value on it. I do WW online & I find that keeps me honest, as I religiously log my weight, but I am hit & miss with my points counting, but it is clearly working for me. That's the biggest decision - finding a solution that works for you. I can't wait to start this journey with you. I'll be cheering you on.

SWEET MAKO _ Thanks for asking, we are jetting outta here on Friday night. I'm ever so excited & have started packing!!! Disneyland look out is all I can say!!!

AFM _ I'm working, so must pop back on here tomorrow when I'm at home!

Love to you all!

Jayne

PS _ DEB what a hot mama you are being so close to goal!!! Also, I had a little chuckle with the full-circle thingy! LOL

[Janie]

Hi folks! I lost the new thread, thought it had been ultra quiet Will try to catch up somewhat. Sorry I am so slack with personals, so so busy.......I really do read and keep up with what you're all at, and quietly cheer, cry and send out virtual hugs to you all as required .

Big WELCOME HOME today to Lisa and her new little princess

[Freya]

Just a flyby, subscribing. Feeling sick at both ends (this bloody getting sick thing never ends for us *sigh*) so Im ditching Uni to sit at home and feel sorry for myself (and do an assignment due tomorrow). Hopefully its just something I ate.

[Willow]

Freya - Hope you're feeling better soon And winter's on it's way...awesome time of year for illness Last year wasn't too bad for us but the year before was a SHOCKER.

Spring/Jayney Jayne/Deb - Well done on all the weight loss stuff. I have to say though I think 25kg is a massive amount for both of you girls and I hope you don't end up looking like lollipops I have managed to lose a few kg (about 4-5kg now I think) but it wasn't really intentional. I have joined the gym but my motivation wasn't to lose weight - I just needed some time for me and something to focus on that was just about ME. Of course I hoped to drop a few kgs along the way so I'm happy that's happening. I have a few weddings coming up and a killer outfit in my wardrobe that I can't wear with a bum this big so I might focus a bit more on what I'm eating in the next few weeks and see if I can drop some more weight. Jayne - I have always had lots of success with WW. Love it. I was going to join online but figured that money could go towards the gym - actually getting out of the house and doing something positive rather than spending more time in front of this damn computer!

Mako - You are not a failure and this is not your fault. When do you next see Dr S?

Janie - Great to hear from you. Looking forward to having you around more again when life settles down a bit for you guys.

Lisa - Thinking of you and hope you are recovering well and settling in with your newest princess

Lee - Sounds like you are doing it tough. It must be such a difficult situation to be in. I have also had counseling in the past and found it immensely helpful. I hope you find the same. Oh, and given your MIL's latest pearl of wisdom, I'm moving to France so my baby will sleep through the night too!

As for us, things are OK. My nan hasn't been so good the last week or so. She is losing a lot of weight, generally unwell, in a lot of pain and not eating Things are not as bad yet as they will be, so I am seeing her as much as I can (which is hard with two very busy boys) and trying to enjoy this time with her and also be there to support my mum. Mum has gone home now for a break and will be back the week after Easter.

DD is doing really well at school and distraught at the thought of the coming school holidays - there were actual tears

The boys are well but DS2 has still not gone back to the wonderful sleeper he was and I've just accepted that probably won't happen now and am trying to work at improving things. Won't bore you with the details, most of us have been there unfortunately, but last night there was only one wake up so I'm feeling a bit better today after a decent nights sleep. He is cutting another 4 teeth that I can see sitting in the gum, so I think it's going to be an interesting few weeks.

Better go. Off to a morning tea/playdate/birthday thingo this morning. Starts at 10am but I brought the boy home for a sleep because there's no way he's missing a nap atm.