Will it always be so hard?

[Isadora]

I'm sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby girl, she will always be in your heart and thoughts. I guess as time goes past it does get easier, but her birthday and christmas will be especially hard for you. xox

[Spring Angel]

I know exactly how you feel hun and you have my sympathy

It does slowly get easier. Perhaps easier isn't the right word, it will always hurt so much but you learn that it is ok to be happy again. I still miss my lad crazy and I find it is especially hard around special occasions.

We have a bauble on the tree with his name, on Christmas day we light a special Christmas candle and burn it all day in memory of him. I used to get him presents, but now I right a special card to him and put it in his memory box. If people around you don't acknowledge your little girl then I think the best thing to do is to include her in your close family traditions. I find acknowleding our angels and not just pretending that everything is ok is the best way to get through special days.

HTH

Spring xx

Oh and the 'is this your first' type questions always sting but I've developed a rule. If I'm going to see the person again I tell them the truth, if they are a stranger (eg at a checkout) I say yes. I sort of think yes this is my first child, my other is an extra special angel.